@monicamooresmith5: YOU DONT OWE BLANK TO ANYONE. Being together, living together, being married, non of that entitles a partner to your body. Intimacy in an abuse dynamic isn’t intimacy, it’s control, and abuse. Not love. Many abusers will use “intimacy” as a means of control. They will often follow up a big blow up or abusive act with an initiation of seggs. But when you are unsafe, your body will often tell you in ways that make it difficult for you to engage emotionally and physically with the unsafe person. An abuser, wants to override your emergency systems, and put pressure on intimacy to ensure they still have control over you and are getting what they want. They also want you to forget the abuse ever happened. Having their cake and eating it to. It also ensures that you don’t trust yourself, so you will expect less and less of the partner, while they get more and more. You have as much right to deny seggs to a creep on the street as the man you marry. Abusers don’t get privileges, and acess to you is one of them. #abuse #dv #cohersivecontrol

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Thursday 21 August 2025 03:15:42 GMT