@beccasday: If your mood depends on how much attention they give you, you’re not “too emotional”, you’re likely just running on an anxious attachment loop. When you’re anxiously attached, attention equals safety. So when they’re affectionate, responsive, and present, your nervous system relaxes… finally, I’m safe. But when they pull back, get busy, or go quiet? That same nervous system panics. It tells you something’s wrong. That you’ve done something to make them lose interest. You start overanalyzing texts, questioning yourself, maybe even changing your behaviour just to get their attention back. But that cycle doesn’t bring real peace, it just keeps you stuck depending on external validation to feel okay. Here’s what helps you break it: 1. Notice the pattern. Awareness is the first step, “My mood just shifted because I’m not getting attention right now.” 2. Ground yourself before reacting. Take a few deep breaths, journal, or move your body before reaching out, this helps your brain return to safety. 3. Give yourself the reassurance you keep seeking. Try saying, “I’m still safe. Their silence doesn’t define my worth.” 4. Rebuild inner stability. The more you learn to regulate your emotions without depending on their attention, the less power those highs and lows have over you. That’s exactly what my Peace Over Panic workbook helps you do; calm your anxious attachment, regulate your nervous system, and build inner peace that doesn’t rely on someone else. 🫶🏻 Comment “READY” and I’ll send you the link to my workbook. #anxiousattachment #peaceoverpanic #HealingJourney #relationshipanxiety #attachmentstyles

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