Jola Jovani
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MadeByMezza :
I hate the word 'sure'
2025-11-10 03:52:00
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L :
Big one for me was changing “I don’t care” to “I don’t mind”
2025-11-10 06:15:56
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Shadow1920 :
what if we have no pros and cons? and maybe the fact you feel like your dragging someone along with you is the actual reason and maybe the activity needs to be more suited for the couple rather than for you?
2025-11-10 08:20:44
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MommaK :
They must respond MY way. I must NEVER accept them for how they are, I kust change them to fit my mold. Sound about right???
2025-11-11 11:46:24
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Bfast4Supper :
I'm a classic neutral under-reactor. And this is a lightbulb moment for me, as I think my partner feels this frustration but hasn't expressed it so plainly to me.
2025-11-10 13:09:08
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cerisem4 :
if you truly don't mind but don't have an opinion, "sounds good!" and "works for me!" and "let's do it!" are all great alternatives to "sure" and "I don't mind". focus on the fact that it DOES sound good to do something with your partner.
2025-11-12 22:19:04
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Itmee :
and i feel totally overwhelmed having to explain in detail how i feel
2025-11-10 17:25:57
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Mateo :
or you can just learn to understand your partner. I'm not changing how I speak for anyone. thankfully my girlfriend understands (not that it's hard)
2025-11-10 20:22:02
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rebecca :
sometimes ppl like to be dragged along ✨
2025-11-11 08:51:50
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jess :
We banned ‘sure’ and ‘I don’t mind’ in our house bc you may as well fart in my ear. Means absolutely nothing.
2025-11-11 14:45:17
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👩🏼🦽 Bunnyaimée 🐇 :
trying to explain to my partner recently that "whatever you want to do" "its totally up to you" etc isnt helpful because it puts all the mental load on me, i want us to do something together, not have to decide & plan everything.
2025-11-10 17:55:30
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Brujaja 🍉 :
my hang up has always been that I dont want to say yes if I dont care bc that yes is dishonest. I am autistic and idk if thats why I have this issue. bc if I dont care, I am genuinely so apathetic to it that I dont have pros and cons. if any other autistics have advice on this, please chime in. I stress out my poor, sweet bf 😭
2025-11-11 19:05:06
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acresofabundance :
I said to my husband, if you don't care, just say "yes!" if you don't have a preference, get on board!!
2025-11-10 09:39:33
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Rad B 🇨🇦 :
Shrugging triggers me
2025-11-11 04:46:21
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Stan the man :
Now let work on telling us what you wanna eat….totally a joke by the way but I am that guy and normally I just explain myself because my face will never tell you.
2025-11-14 00:58:53
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pensivepussy33327 :
I get the sentiment but i really really hate being tone policed. it can feel like im walking on eggshells when it feels like im having to perform a level of enthusiasm that is satisfactory just so my bf doesn’t take it as me not caring
2025-11-11 19:54:42
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RealManBluePrint :
This is also a possible sign that the person asking the question has insecurity issues maybe rooting from childhood trauma or prior relationships, they feel they need over validation for every question or request. which if this is the case you as their partner should be sensitive to that but its not healthy to go on judging your partners love on his/her answer of if they want to go check the mail or not
2025-11-10 22:51:50
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hellokyrahello :
A similar thing happens for me with the difference between, “You can come, too, if you want,” versus, “Would you like to come with us?”
2025-11-11 06:37:40
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Ali in 🇯🇵 :
My husband is a non native English speaker and I eventually had to explain why “sure, why not?” Sounded bad, like I’m forcing him to do something. Poor dude thought it meant an enthusiastic of course because “why not” was the same as “why wouldn’t I want to?” To him
2025-11-10 13:24:19
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Mina.the.bot :
MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS WORDS OF INFORMATION lol
2025-11-12 13:33:33
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Stephanie E. :
We’ve changed the way we ask questions. Instead of “what do you wanna watch?” We ask “Do you want something funny, serious, scary? What’s the vibe?” And we stopped saying “I don’t care” and instead we say stuff like “anything but ____” or “I cant make a decision right now, could you pick?”
2025-11-10 23:23:11
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esmeraldathinks :
I can attest, no matter how much you try, you can’t explain to someone else how to have a personality
2025-11-10 10:58:34
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gabrielezonnefeld :
Also “not half bad” or “fine”
2025-11-10 22:10:13
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SortasweetXO :
It’s not just frustration because you don’t know how they feel. It’s insecurity because the ambivalence can make you feel like they literally don’t care & that hurts because it’s something you do care about. Calling a thing what it is invites problem solving dialogue. If they care they will help you fix it. Your partner shouldn’t have to change how they speak just because you’re insecure, but they can reassure to help you feel more secure. Let’s fix the insecurity together instead. If my partner responded by saying how can I express that I don’t feel strongly either way in a way that makes you feel more secure? I would feel so incredibly seen.
2025-11-11 12:50:02
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Rachael.Tries.Life :
This helped me understand my own feelings. Thank you for this
2025-11-10 16:55:03
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