Matthias J Barker
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Wednesday 13 October 2021 17:23:31 GMT
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thomas (taylor’s version) :
The phrase “I feel” should only be followed by an emotion word; otherwise, it’s just an assumption about the other person.
2021-10-13 17:35:24
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AdviceWithErin✨ :
This is why “when you ____ I feel ____” is so powerful!
2021-10-13 20:24:19
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Dead :
I was always called Defensive by my ex, and this is why- She’d always accuse me for being pissy, when really I was upset. Thank you 💛💛💛
2021-10-13 18:16:06
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nessa :
was anyone else TAUGHT TO DO THIS as a child? I remember my mother specifically saying to do it this way bc "you can't be hurt by someone's feelings"
2021-10-13 18:17:08
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JeffMazzella :
This is legit great advice. Haven’t heard it that way before
2021-10-13 18:06:56
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Sean Kelly :
I can't say a single sentence that doesn't start with "i feel". Im guilty af.
2021-10-13 20:36:56
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N :
oh lord i’ve been using “i feel” for too long this really helps thankyou, also i love the music
2021-10-13 18:40:53
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Joshua Wical :
Positive my therapist said to use "I feel like" but the way you say I want to feel sounds so much better at opening a dialogue 🥺
2021-10-14 04:32:29
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Dude :
Damn wish I knew this before my wife decided to start the divorce process ..🥺🥺
2021-10-13 18:03:46
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Laura Clery :
Love this advice
2021-10-14 04:05:58
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Molly Lindley :
Yikes I am super guilty of this. Thank you for offering another way of putting it.
2021-10-13 17:30:25
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Josh :
I feel like knowing this will make me feel manipulative and worry about using it healthily.
2021-10-14 02:19:07
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Andrena Emanuel :
Don’t use you at all “ I feel unheard when I’m treated this way”
2021-10-14 14:30:44
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zandilions :
my problem is that I then also have to give examples of what can be done to feel more love/affection etc..
2025-01-05 14:40:42
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Matthias J Barker :
I have a couples workshop on my site if you’re wanting more depth on this 🙏🏻
2021-10-13 17:27:56
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Nena Huss :
yo anymore on this kind of thing would be great. Im about to have a tough conversation with my best friend and she goes on defense quick
2021-10-13 19:29:11
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Fauxtivational Speaker :
Ooooooo yesss❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
2021-10-13 20:06:08
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Kay :
I’ve found that when saying “I want to feel more loved by you” that my partner has no idea what that means
2021-10-13 18:44:52
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Drsmh :
Honestly I don’t think it matters, when people say things like that to me I just translate from the second version to the first. I think whats meaning
2021-10-13 21:27:13
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DnD Anthony :
have you ever read "never split the difference"? That book also mentions that you can say "it seems like..." to soften the blow of something and its
2021-10-13 21:16:28
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Y.R.U.The.Way.That.You.Are :
I remember at one point we were told to use I FEEL instead of YOU ARE. Now i am to not use I feel but switch it up to tell them how I want them to mak
2021-10-13 21:06:06
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Alexxkingg :
What about “I don’t wanna feel” like “I don’t wanna feel ignored, misunderstood, etc. bc it gets the point across but they could interpret it as they
2021-10-13 20:41:18
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Syprate :
not gonna lie some of your worst advice. instead of it being put into the context of how someone feels it's out into the context of what they want.
2021-10-13 21:18:39
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PersonalTranscend :
Perfect reframe.
2021-10-13 17:26:23
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laura-sophie.schlitt :
I actually like to use „I feel like…“ bc I want to express how I feel about/see something & then I ask what they feel/see so we can understand (1)
2021-10-13 21:48:01
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Alexa Turner :
How is this app free… I just got married and you’ve helped me a lot more with communication which is a HUGE part of it🤍🤍
2021-10-13 18:08:34
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Christina :
Question: how can a person give you more affection if they have an issue w/ it and the partner knows this?
2021-10-13 19:24:54
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Paulo Campos :
i wanna feel like I'm alive again.
2021-10-13 22:25:13
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MykoMushroom :
Facts!
2021-10-13 18:12:54
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Jason Donahoo :
it's also a key with "I feel" statements to make them directed towards the self, not others. (1)
2021-10-13 21:07:31
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Drugstore Lotion :
What do you do when you try all the things but the person won’t listen. I just want to be cared for
2021-10-13 19:30:45
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Urszula :
do you have examples for professional relationships and professional feedback
2021-10-13 22:30:19
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Destiny :
I needed this especially right now. You always have perfect timing 🥺
2021-10-13 18:00:06
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Andres Vernazza 💎📵 :
brilliant 👌
2021-10-13 21:34:23
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S p i k e ?? :
you're a few weeks too late, he's gone
2021-10-13 18:00:38
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Micheal Deiva :
The second one takes a lot more maturity and vulnerability, you need to give up control and give them the choice to make the change
2021-10-13 21:29:18
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Hello :
Thank you! Funny how your video shows up with the answer I was looking for. I am going to try this!
2021-10-13 18:01:56
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Vicki Chan MD :
So good…
2021-10-13 20:51:57
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Addiction_talks :
thank you for these videos 💓
2021-10-13 22:10:00
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ACC :
“I do do those things!” Then why am I saying anything?
2021-10-13 19:29:26
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megan :
thank you for thissss
2021-10-13 19:10:33
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tm16913 :
@laurenemilee_ @user74613944 @jakobmarberger I love this
2021-10-13 22:27:50
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Ty The Garden Guy :
Great advice
2021-10-13 20:14:57
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PieOmy :
going to try this right now. brb 😬
2021-10-13 18:05:54
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ChiaTheGreat93 :
I love all your content. When I’m having a tough day I find myself in your page. Thank you
2021-10-13 17:55:39
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Joey Burbach :
You dropped this king 👑
2021-10-13 23:22:20
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Cassi Hughes :
So how do I go about getting a therapist like you without paying an arm and a leg?🥺 It's desperately needed
2021-10-13 18:47:31
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Samantha :
Clever
2021-10-13 17:44:10
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thelonelysilverfish :
it's really easy though to collect filler words when you're not sure when an appropriate time to bring up the topic is
2021-10-13 20:15:20
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Robby Duersch :
What song is this??
2021-10-13 18:34:03
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