@whatintheshibal: A baby isn’t an accessory that you mold to match your aesthetic/personality. A parent’s job is to put the needs of the child first so they can grow up to feel whole and happy. And in the case of tranracial adoptees, feeling “whole” also includes immersing them in their originating culture so they can avoid feeling that disparity between how they feel/navigate the world and how they are viewed/treated. Be a parent. Prepare your children for success. 🎙️ @Soogia (soo-jee-yah) & @Ed #asiandiaspora #transracialadoption #transracialadoptee #aita #asiantiktok #adoption #whatintheshibal #soogia #etchaskej
I’m mixed b/w and my daughter is mixed b/w and Filipino. I have learned as much as I could and am still learning for her. My parents taught me nothing about my culture (Caribbean) and I’ve always felt like I was missing something.
2025-06-11 11:19:13
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Angelique Delage :
As a sister to a SK adoptee, (we lived in SK in a village I should add) Our Mom made it her mission to include his heritage in our life. We celebrated
2023-06-28 22:59:43
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🎙️💋JaniferTheGreat💋🎙️ :
Many ppl adopt outside of the US bc it’s faster and a cheaper process. My husband & his ex-wife tried to adopt in the US, but was stuck (1/…)
2023-06-30 13:03:59
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Jerri1970 :
I called red flag on my husband because for real?
2023-06-28 19:33:08
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Naveyryoko :
I was adopted by a white family I never got to learn my culture I was strictly forbidden from Korean camp language and martial arts. It wrecked me.
2023-06-28 18:56:12
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shloanies world :
love her asking about connecting with local community for baby
2023-06-28 18:06:54
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Amy-Elizabeth :
I’m a history teacher and one of the most heartbreaking things is having a student tell me that they loved my class because they finally got to learn
2023-06-29 13:13:37
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AHS Fiber Arts :
My parents adopted me in 85 and I had a dol-ish on my 1st bday but I know very lil I am trying to learn for the sake of my kids & inner kid
2023-06-28 17:14:17
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Erick Zoolander :
my friend's mom adopts children from other countries and one of the first books they reach of them are picture books about their country
2023-06-28 21:19:14
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paxbananzas :
as a tr adoptee - my mom&dad tried but i refused to learn anything. i was embarrassed in spite of them telling me that-
2023-06-30 00:00:37
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Jackeline :
I'm adopted and I know nothing about both of my cultures. talk about major identity crisis growing up. And not looking like one person in my family.
2023-06-30 04:29:27
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Sarah Half :
That is so sad. Doesn’t the agency say anything about that!? We adopted from foster care and our agency made us make a life book and keep them connect
2023-06-30 22:40:48
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Mind of a Ladybug :
say this louder for those in the back who are "shopping" for a accessory, not looking to help raise someone who needs a fam!!!
2023-07-04 15:51:50
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Rachel Snow :
I was adopted by yt parents in 94 from 🇵🇭. my parents didn't do anything to teach me of my culture. I am 28 yo & I have a huge identity crisis
2023-06-28 18:04:50
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Samantha | Lifestyle Creator :
I’d be so excited to learn all about where they’re from. We’d be trying to take them to visit and learning the foods. So worth it.
2023-06-28 18:51:32
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🌿🍄🪬🌞 :
a KEY thing that adoptive parents need to remember is also learning about what kind of experience that kid will have when they bring it to america
2023-06-28 17:36:35
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♡Soyun♡ :
it should be a law that ppl learn the culture if they adopt international, I was forced to Assimilate into America at 2.5yrs old not being able to
2023-06-29 02:20:35
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VEJ :
I'm mixed with Choctaw ancestry and when I was 3 I was placed with my yt half of the family and it scarred me losing half my family and heritage. I
2023-06-30 01:01:23
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🍈 上 :
i was born in china and adopted in 1999 because of the one child policy. i didn’t get ANY exposure to my culture until college when i decided to learn
2023-06-30 01:53:04
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Shanna Tuan :
I can’t understand this logic. My white family could never understand why I completely immersed myself in his culture and even would get mad.
2023-06-30 21:44:37
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Rachel White :
Adopted from South Korea. My parents told me they only thought of me as white.
2023-06-30 10:29:08
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Booba Fett :
A friend adopted from India and has worked so hard to learn about the culture, language, folklore, etc. They've even made trips there. (1/2)
2023-06-29 14:30:57
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someone somewhere :
Love your caption and the sarcastic reading of “like any other baby” 😏😆
2023-06-28 20:41:13
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Noelle | Your DEI Guide :
all of this + don't date outside your culture if you're uninterested in learning about that culture (with them and on your own)
2023-06-30 00:36:58
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