@aaronjohnstonetherapy: When a person with an anxious attachment style dates a person with an avoidant attachment style they tend to engage in a toxic cycle that reinforces both of their attachment issues. For these two, the spoken or unspoken “battle” is always over the amount of intimacy and effort that’s required in order to feel safe and comfortable in the relationship. The Avoidant pushes for less, and the anxious pushes for more. #Relationship #attachmentstyle #attachment #attachmentissues #attachmenttheory #breakup #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dating #datingadvice #datingtips
Avoidants are meant to be alone. The word explains by itself
2023-07-26 12:51:34
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🩷 :
as I’m getting more secure within myself, avoidants are even more unappealing to me now. I’d take an anxious attached person over an avoidant any day
2023-07-27 19:17:50
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baymoyer :
So what do I do?
2023-08-01 17:34:58
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Kristin Colvin :
Everyone is so great at stating the problem but not giving a solution.
2023-08-05 02:07:44
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Liz :
avoidants are just players who don't want real connections because bonds will be formed and they're playing games and have options.
2023-07-29 06:52:08
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Ashley | Rocky Phoenix AI🐦🔥 :
when an avoidant pushes away a secure, we are like "cool, bet, dueces ✌🏾" 😁
2023-07-27 03:28:01
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Justjesswastaken :
Learned today I need to communicate that I need space but it doesn’t change my feelings for my anxious partner. Thank you!
2023-07-27 02:11:03
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🎀 Jessica Anne 🎀 :
The minute I realize it’s not secure attachment, I bail. I’m secure. I’ve been anxious. I can see avoidant a mile away. I’m good
2023-07-28 14:47:50
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The_Last_Flauta76 :
I’ve been called an avoidant in the past but I think mine is more PTSD and it creates self sabotage 🧐 because my parents and friends all love me and I had a good childhood. I’m Also an only child
2024-07-19 00:43:02
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Liz :
Been dealing with this for 9 months now 🙄
2023-07-26 22:19:34
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✨ :
the avoidant hate in the comments bro 😭💔 like we’re just terrified of love we’re self harming
2023-08-10 16:42:14
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Cʜʀɪsᴛɪɴᴀ :
I’m a secure attachment style but sometimes dealing with avoidant attachments will bring out some anxious styles in me that I already healed
2023-08-11 06:56:22
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capricious_solandis :
Okay. So where’s the solution??? I like how everyone’s diagnosing now but I don’t see any answers.
2023-08-19 13:11:47
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Rebecca :
Good thing my partner and I are both anxious attachments.. we constantly provide reassurance to each other 🥰
2023-08-01 12:07:57
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gingerbluegreenred :
The fact that secure attachers can turn anxious when in a relationship with an avoidant… Explains it all 🥺
2023-08-10 11:21:03
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🌶️🥒Jessica🔨Rabbit 🥒🌶️ :
I was talking to someone and I was saying to him hey do u want space bc I felt distance I got no answer just pushed away an figured out this is us.
2023-07-26 20:34:16
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Jayden Kirby :
How would two people work on this issue?
2023-07-25 20:07:20
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💫🌻Melanie🌻💫 :
@Cornelius Dobson omg this explains us !
2023-08-16 22:29:57
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lala loopsy :
He was avoidant and I’m anxious and he messed me up that now I just am anxious no matter what now
2023-07-27 02:55:58
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Kevin :
My avoidant wanted “less” but at the same time wanted “more”. Yeah, they are impossible.
2023-08-17 06:12:21
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ty :
Once the anxious stops caring the avoidant becomes the anxious
2023-08-21 19:59:48
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Piper :
People always talk shit about the avoidant much and I don’t think that I have because you don’t know what happened to them I am learning this
2023-07-26 23:26:43
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Aguirreops.com :
Everyone is either more on the anxious or avoidant spectrum. There’s obviously degrees and levels to it. There’s also trigger events to consider.
2023-08-02 21:37:41
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StitchedandStyledCY :
so what's the solution 😅
2023-07-31 12:40:20
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