Haven! Podcast
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Saturday 12 August 2023 17:25:53 GMT
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RJ :
we getting gaslit by our own therapists out here lol y’all be safe 😭
2023-08-13 06:01:09
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linniebrooke :
idk this sounds like bad advice on the therapist's part tbh
2023-08-13 06:51:52
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Kenzie Kuhn :
I don’t necessarily agree. Even if your strength is apologizing first that doesn’t mean the other person is incapable. We need to better ourselves
2023-08-15 19:44:46
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Steve Balboni 🇸🇴 :
I’m big enough to admit this will never be me.
2023-08-13 01:15:33
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br0wnm4mb4 :
Married 5yrs, I understand what he’s saying. Sometimes to solve the problem- it’s more important to de-escalate first so you can better communicate.
2023-08-14 12:47:19
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Brandon Hollis :
All I heard was "My SO is childish with communication issues so I learned to be ok with being a doormat when shes gaslighting me"
2023-08-15 18:43:23
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an_amazingusername :
I really hope he didn’t pay for that advice
2023-08-13 13:00:03
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TBC :
the therapist basically said if he CHOOSES to remain with this person, that is the role he has to play. he can be with someone else & not play role
2023-08-14 14:05:48
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rusticstudio :
“What I bring is rolling over whether you’re right or wrong.”
2023-08-13 11:39:53
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Elle :
he said "apologize first" not be the only one to apologize. she still takes accountability but needs the push from him to start the conversation.
2023-08-13 13:37:57
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Ashley Burk :
best Ted talk I've ever watched 🙏🙏🙏🙏
2023-08-13 22:00:24
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llevang :
Saving all the TikTok videos that changed my life. Thank you!🤗
2025-01-18 05:36:34
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Oh Garsh :
As she laughs the most villainous laugh of victory.
2023-08-14 12:32:10
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SunnySinny420 :
"this is not an imbalance in the relationship, this is what i bring to the relationship"
2023-08-13 03:19:16
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Mrs Wallace :
For Those that are confused. His therapist likely said that because fighting over who apologizes first & keeping score is a waste of time.
2023-08-13 13:35:55
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Chelzz 🍉 :
there's a lot of nuance that a lot of commenters are missing.
2023-08-12 23:30:51
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Lulu's Best :
Why what a powerful thing to realize. To start looking at our strengths and learning to use them while they use theirs.
2023-08-13 02:56:03
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BearTraps :
“Keep growing bro, because she can’t” 🤣
2023-08-13 15:52:30
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Samwow :
I love the thought, but don't understand why that's ok. It sounds like "They're unreasonable and it's your job to fix it".
2023-08-13 05:46:59
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Hector :
Compromise is so important in relationships, but this feels SO outside of that, very unhealthy in the long run
2023-08-13 07:16:33
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Haven! Podcast :
This clip is explained in more context in the full ep! The main point is that we both seek to forgive but Aaron’s strength is his ability to peacemake
2023-08-13 02:21:33
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gqmalguisbrfjiapvvs :
Not everything can be 50/50. Good video
2023-08-12 23:59:46
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xxxzxxxthhffxc :
I feel like people are missing that it’s implied that once he appologizes first, she is fully able to apologize in return and take accountability (1/2
2023-08-14 19:16:22
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Dez :
I love the idea of finding each partners strength, but this feels like one partner not having to contribute basic respect and healthy communication
2023-08-13 12:52:25
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Shane B. :
Oof, no. I feel like not being able to apologize first ever means you see your partner’s emotional pain as lesser to your own in the relationship
2023-08-14 00:24:15
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sarina :
so I get the idea behind it of accepting and loving your partner despite their issues, but in turn both sides should try to be better for the other
2023-08-12 20:23:23
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rayasunshine :
I’d never want to burden my husband with that 🥺
2023-08-13 04:12:44
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Nate Bates :
Mm, I’m so proud of ny lack of pride or ego, I was always willing to apologize or approach her first after an argument to get where I wanted us to be
2023-08-13 02:30:39
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CBB01 :
Winning or losing in a relationship is so unhealthy. Keeping the argument going just not to apologize first is a loss.
2023-08-14 02:38:13
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Aish :
All nuance aside, that is still a lot of emotional tax on one partner especially if the other is cognitively aware of it.
2023-08-15 16:27:19
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sean reynolds :
You may need a new therapist 🤔
2023-08-12 20:14:12
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🍋🍊👻 :
Divorce babes divorce
2023-08-12 21:44:20
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papaanya24 :
thx 4 sharing this reframe about strengths versus imbalances
2023-08-12 21:27:48
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The Blackjack Bandit :
I do the same thing, but it feels like I'm enabling and sacrificing my boundaries as a logical human with self respect.
2023-08-12 19:58:14
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Salty bacon boots :
Ummm is this for reals? As a therapist, you need a new therapist. Your emotions are also valid
2023-08-12 21:37:30
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Toni Rowe :
Its exhausting sometimes. This is me for the last 27 years. There are days I’m frustrated.
2023-08-13 02:10:03
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Hobbit-hands27 :
I'd leave so fast
2023-08-13 00:35:47
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bre.inn :
As someone who also never apologizes first, her saying “you’re right” when you said she started it IS her apology🥰
2023-08-13 07:37:08
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Jennifer Luke :
I love this thought process !!! It’s your superpower!!!!!!! Yay u!!!
2023-08-13 01:45:10
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Harb0411 :
Jesus. Imagine being manipulated into this mindset. Get a new counselor
2023-08-12 23:20:01
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🌏 :
I love this. If your ego is all you have to surrender for a happy marriage, hell yes I’ll do that every time
2023-08-14 13:59:11
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thematturlookingfor :
Nooooope that’s a bad therapist dude
2023-08-12 23:25:38
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SingInTheRain712 :
That’s why I alway say taking other peoples therapy advice is like using someone else prescription medicine.
2023-09-06 02:01:52
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Snek :
"you're just gonna have to deal with someone who will absolutely refuse to take accountability for the rest of your relationship ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
2023-08-14 13:45:05
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Jo's Virtual Shoppe :
😳Noooooo
2023-08-13 02:19:00
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jhaught :
I had a partner very much exploit my readiness to apologize and this feels very much like bad advice.
2023-08-14 15:42:00
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Velvet :
That’s super sus. 🚩
2023-08-12 23:46:34
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Raymond Link :
That sounds like some terrible marriage counseling
2023-08-12 23:30:55
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Jesse O'Daniel :
These comments are not it. Most of these commenters don't have the strength for a loving marriage and it shows
2023-08-12 23:16:50
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Music4livin :
Yeah not everything can be 50/50 but 0/100? Lol that sounds too much.. 😭
2023-08-14 14:58:18
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sssaves :
Y’all who’re feeling outraged by this advice: just ‘cause it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it can’t work for other folks.
2023-08-12 21:17:04
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Smile easy killer :
When you realize, and give up, that your partner will never progress to an emotional maturity you naturally have. enabling immaturity or coping?
2023-08-13 03:15:46
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reederk09 :
My partner beats me but one of my strengths is I can take a punch. Balance👌
2023-08-14 12:15:05
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