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Joce 💙💜🩷 :
I’ve always wondered how many “straight” people are really bi/pan and haven’t figured it out
2024-05-18 03:44:36
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Alexis Fulton :
I think the same thing goes for attraction to conventional beauty standards. So much of it is learned it’s hard to untangle.
2024-05-18 02:20:31
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IgniteDezigns :
took me a LONG time to question and figure out that I'm Asexual
2024-05-18 02:50:52
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Sheena Martin :
Me, discovering Pansexuality "I wasn't aware that was something a person could do...I'm perplexed!"🎵
2024-05-18 01:35:54
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Cute Hero Bunny :
comphet, beauty standards, racism, fatphobia... all conditionings of attraction on some level
2024-05-18 01:50:26
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Cam (they/them) :
this is how i came into my gender and sexuality. i didn't feel strongly about any of it but once i learned i had ✨ options ✨ some of them started looking better than the box I'd been shoved into from birth
2024-05-18 02:37:05
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GlassLotuses :
it took me until my early 20s to discover I was ace, and then my late 20s when my partner came out as trans to realize I was panromantic. I hadn't ever cared enough to deviate from the default lol
2024-05-18 03:38:20
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Honey :
i often wonder how msny "straight" people are just indifferent aces who just are going through thr motions
2024-05-26 16:00:04
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spicy polly :
there's a reason lesbian circles talk constantly about comphet, and why aro/acespec people struggle even understanding lack of attraction can be a thing-- we're all socially taught to be straight. it's true. the reason bigots fear the "gay agenda" is because they, on some level, understand that there is a very real Straight Agenda, aka. heteronormativity.
2024-05-18 01:28:34
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randy connelly :
100% with you there. didn't even question it till my 20s and even then scared to even think I might be something else. Came out in my 30s after moving away from everyone I knew
2024-05-18 02:25:24
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Millie_Millie_Camille :
I feel this on such a deep level! I was also conditioned to believe I am straight when infact idk that I am
2024-05-18 01:31:40
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jenregiswashere :
Me discovering panromantic/demisexuality
2024-05-18 01:39:12
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user2451340071462 :
Okay but this whole OUTFIT though 🔥🔥🔥
2024-05-18 03:21:51
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Ursulovely.bsky.social :
Every “straight” person who has ever thought “everyone is a little bit bi…”
2024-05-18 02:20:12
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sweetcider21 :
Ace human who thought I was straight and really good at "saving myself for marriage" for far too long... Thanks for saying this
2024-06-05 00:19:45
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Brandon :
I think trauma and conditioning can cause people to block out certain aspects of themselves they may find later, but I don't think one can be conditioned to be something they aren't.
2024-05-18 05:44:33
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Adrie_Atmosphere :
this accidentally happened to me with the best intentions. always knew I didn't fit in as a guy but my parents reassured me that I was normal so I never even questioned it untill I moved out
2024-05-24 03:02:03
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Autistic Daddy :
sometimes it is really hard to even begin to have some of these conversations where there is a kernel of truth.
2024-05-18 02:00:39
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📚 Eugene | they/them :
Same. It’s a part of the unmasking journey
2024-05-18 12:03:42
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Joeie :
I would like to say that I am absolutely loving the necklace😍🥰
2024-05-18 03:35:26
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Kenyannous :
I feel that. In my unpacking I've come up with homoromantic asexual... or maybe demisexual... so far. Never been in a relationship to confirm or deny though. I'm just floating at this point 🤷🏿♂️
2024-05-18 03:15:04
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WireWhiz :
Real
2024-05-23 01:52:32
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Christopher Smith :
🥰🥰
2024-05-22 10:49:08
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Mars 💖 :
I'm autistic and gender apathetic. It took me a long time to realize that gender just wasn't a factor in how I see myself and other people
2024-05-18 22:34:43
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spacemanparade :
yeah, I haven't been taught to be attracted but I've definitely been taught to be unattracted
2024-05-18 22:46:00
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AmbyM :
always thought I was somewhere on the bi spectrum but now I know about pan. 😅 still unpacking after husband and 2 kiddos.
2024-05-18 02:07:37
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nekrupa :
hi me I was also coerced. thanks for making us seen.
2024-05-18 03:32:26
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kayg2gmkay :
I think it’s important for people to at some point question what they find attractive too! Like do I like this or that because my culture/society told me that’s what’s attractive, or is it my choice
2024-06-04 02:49:08
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PurpleCapricorn :
YES! Unpacking in my 50s.
2024-05-18 12:05:21
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NeverWitched :
Less like teaching, more like obscuring, people who don’t have the words to describe a desire often can’t perceive it or express it well
2024-05-18 06:34:38
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Alex :
I actually really like this message. I grew up thinking I was “normal” and now as a 30-ish adult I’m realizing I’m probably ace or on the ace-spectrum
2024-05-18 14:05:36
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Lee :
yeah that's basically what comphet is
2024-05-18 12:32:01
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lithropanic :
and knowing/being surrounded by people who "aren't straight" doesn't take away the conditioning. it's a big conversation (that still isn't taken super seriously by ppl who don't feel it)
2024-05-18 01:33:32
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odiedragon :
I think about this a lot.
2024-07-04 01:10:09
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Nope nope :
I am one of these that was coerced to be cis. Unpacking has taught me that i world likely have transitioned in another life
2024-06-06 19:58:00
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likeboneslikeskin :
If we can learn to appreciate different types of beauty, I think we can grow to find different kinds of people attractive.
2024-05-18 18:09:31
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Nick Kraft :
Me a bi/pan, demisexual, hetero passing, non binary whose pronouns are which ever pronouns you feel comfortable using(he/she/it/them/they IDFC) “I just like the humans I like”
2024-05-18 14:21:07
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GreenGablesAndFireFly :
Well said!
2024-05-18 07:48:47
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Kip :
real. unpacking the nuances of my attraction is an ongoing project for me even though I have "accepted myself" and claim the bi label. years of repression don't evaporate overnight
2024-05-18 02:24:53
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Beacuzz_i_can :
I'm ace. And im honestly wondering if i wiuld have ever considered sex or m@terbation if i hadnt been told it was expected.
2024-06-12 10:33:05
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hjnvn :
There can also be nice conditioning. Thanks to my wife having freckles I now think freckles are really pretty. We could say I 'discovered' that about myself but I don't feel like it was there before
2024-05-30 01:30:16
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naurgeoisie :
Congrats! 🎊🎉 🏳️🌈
2024-05-19 02:56:55
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Alec :
Fear, especially religious, can be very coercive.
2024-05-19 00:00:54
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Chelly :
I agree with this - a lot of kids are coerced into str8ness.
2024-05-18 23:18:39
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Imnotsue :
nothing wrong with this take. we are products of our environments and our genetics both. the influence of either never negates our right as queer people to be ourselves and explore 💖
2024-05-18 18:58:57
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T.S. :
Yeah, this actually has a name, compulsory heterosexuality, or Comphet for short. it's a whole school of thought to research and unpack.
2024-05-18 10:34:38
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HiGH LiBREAL :
I was taught to be straight and tried for a while to test the "waters of sexuality" but I ended up just being straight. I like girls who like girls what can I say?
2024-05-18 01:28:28
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The Sardonic Absurdist :
I'd say it can be unlearned, but not taught. Our bodies naturally seek pleasure, but we are taught where NOT to seek it both overtly and covertly. Negative associations are stronger to protect us.
2024-06-30 23:24:59
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Chris Rory :
Been saying this for a while, totally agree and not just sexuality, all sort of norms
2024-06-20 15:51:55
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Yo Adrianne! :
I 100% relate. Didn’t realize I was attracted to the same sex until I was about 32. Never considered it an option. I was straight because I wasn’t obviously gay. Lots of unpacking the last few years.
2024-06-15 14:25:15
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