@lifewiththedorts: Learning to care for my children’s hair, knowing the role that it would play in their identity is one of the most important things I’ve done and I’m still learning. But it’s so much more than just knowing what products to use, even though that’s important. It’s also knowing how what we say and how we act can impact how they view their own hair, especially as a white parent to black or brown children. If I say things like “this is taking forever!” or complain when when I’m detangling they’re going to feel like their hair is a burden and while it can be time consuming it is not ever a burden. Following accounts or other sources that my children can use to see different hairstyles and then pick which ones they like gives them power and control over their hair from a young age. Learning to do those hairstyles through YouTube, a friend or relative or even taking an online course is a great investment into their relationship with their hair. Knowing that even on my worst day it may take 5 minutes to brush through my hair, and knowing that my kids know that…I could never feel good dismissing their discomforts and pains when it takes hours to do theirs. I don’t and never will understand what it’s like to sit patiently at 4 years old for 2 hours while I get my hair done, I never needed to do that. I tell them every hair day that they’re the toughest girls around. I remind them that their strong and amazing and capable. I would rather tell them that than tell them to suck it up. Braids and other protective styles are just that. They are not an excuse to not learn to care for your child’s natural hair. 😉 Their hair is important. And it’s your job to not only know and understand that but to foster an environment where THEY know and understand that. 💛🫶🏼 #hairday #washday #washdayroutine #mixedkids

Chelsie Dort

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Monday 20 May 2024 13:53:16 GMT