@breannefletcher: As a defense mechanism, you may have stopped sticking up for yourself or expressing your opinions to 'keep the peace' in your household growing up. Your sense of self and value may have become tied up in validation sought by others. It is common for many people to unknowingly bring this habit into adulthood, manifesting itself in people-pleasing and being 'agreeable'. In the process, the self can be lost, and so can taking care of it. . . . #healing #healthy #complextrauma #complextraumarecovery #complextraumaawareness #addiction #addictionawareness #addictionrecovery #cbt #timfletcher #fy #fyp #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #mentalhealthrecovery #recovery #timtalk #narcissism #codependency #safespaces #TFSafeSpaces
are we distracting ourselves or is it a survival response yo those around us not being safe?
2024-07-04 17:48:37
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Undercover :
My ex-husband said I was boring. I realized he’s right and I’m OK with that. Putting myself out there was so much work it exhausted me. I’m good with being still and not exciting.
2024-07-07 15:16:12
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Dj-Stanton275 :
I know who I am 👌
2024-07-12 13:00:06
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Heather.Jones :
This exact feeling? It’s what What the Silence Tried to Say put into words. I didn’t know a book could do that.
2025-06-24 07:32:15
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Christina :
Currently going through this. Who am I ?
2024-07-05 10:28:23
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Nunya :
Ouch
2024-07-22 12:57:21
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AdopteeDesigns :
I have no idea who I am, what im capable of, and I see no reflection in the mirror.
2024-07-05 11:48:56
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SemiCharming :
Lately when I hear myself in a conversation I feel like I don’t recognize myself and don’t like what I say. Yet part of me feels I need to accept myself
2024-07-04 17:57:00
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NiceHouse :
Without seeing a professional therapist, are there resources to begin this kind of knowing?
2024-07-04 17:26:25
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jenn 🇨🇦 :
“they use people’s needs to keep distracted from themselves” no. they are forced to cater to the needs of those around them to stay alive
2024-07-05 19:03:50
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WisdomWeaver :
Trauma survivors often develop coping mechanisms that disconnect them from their true feelings, needs, and desires.
2024-07-08 18:14:38
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joniballif :
This is me. Hearing it out loud brought me to tears.
2024-07-10 22:01:19
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Faye :
Where do I start?
2024-07-10 12:29:56
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Kat :
The thing I hate most is the problem is pointed out but never the solution. 👎
2024-07-08 21:23:20
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Ansel :
When you’re in survival mode 24/7, it’s hard to look at yourself and your place in this world without distraction 💕 one step at a time
2024-07-08 19:57:05
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J.A. Conklin :
what time scale is "coming out of". cause I'm sitting on 25 years.
2024-07-09 21:14:04
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Sean McCarthy :
What does that question even mean? Is it talking about characteristics? Is it talking about hobbies? Overall life??
2024-07-08 01:42:20
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ScottB5484 :
Some of us have no “you”.
2024-07-06 06:00:31
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MelissaLarson :
Not everyone’s ready for it. But What the Silence Tried to Say finds you when the noise finally stops.
2025-06-24 07:47:38
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Kimberly.Jackson :
Not everyone’s ready for it. But What the Silence Tried to Say finds you when the noise finally stops.
2025-06-24 07:46:20
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Veronica.Stewart :
Not everyone’s ready for it. But What the Silence Tried to Say finds you when the noise finally stops.
2025-06-24 07:44:02
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DeborahAnderson :
Not a self-help book. More like a mirror. What the Silence Tried to Say by Alira Sennel changed how I sit with myself.
2025-06-24 07:39:46
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Catherine.Blankenship :
I wasn’t expecting a shift. But this book didn’t ask for permission. It just exposed the silence in me.
2025-06-24 07:36:16
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Emily :
Realizing at the age of 29 that I had absolutely no idea who I was… that was an incredibly difficult pill to swallow. But the path to finding out what I love has been a beautiful journey ❤️
2024-09-29 13:58:05
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ruthcharlie103 :
Yep, I am 50’and have no idea, this is a super hard part of healing.
2024-09-18 09:29:52
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Joanne Dawson ❌ :
That’s what I have spent the last 4 years of healing to do know Me 💜
2024-09-17 14:14:02
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zsarstar0 :
Yep
2024-08-23 06:05:58
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Sally-Anne | Therapist :
Love this - I’m a therapist & I burnt out 9 years ago - this was the most important part of my burnout recovery to get to myself
2024-08-04 01:20:04
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mimiD :
I talk to my inner self everyday.It's not easy very difficult with lots of pain. Prayer does really help. Now I know who I am. Always remember you are enough and forever will be enough.
2024-08-03 18:14:37
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sam :
I have no idea who I am, I'm a little frightened mouse
2024-07-28 20:00:03
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chelseam1988 :
It’s also a painful and Very Lonely one…. You HAVE to be committed to the looses u Will face!
2024-07-27 17:52:31
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jiayuedea :
sup traumatised fam, strong recommend buying a children's scrapbook project and doing it about yourself. it asks you things like your favourite movie, favourite color etc
2024-07-27 09:55:56
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Nicole :
but how? how do I find myself?
2024-07-26 22:56:25
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Serena :
Sadly, I gave myself away for so long now I’m a single mom living under the poverty & now have no time or money for healing. 😃
It’s a hard job. It really is your only purpose in life
2024-07-23 10:11:05
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𝑨𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒂 :
“Tell me about yourself”…😬👉🏼👈🏼
2024-07-23 00:44:57
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369tiffany963 :
I’m beginning to not like the way this man calls me out everytime I see his face. 🤭
2024-07-21 17:45:20
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Shwizz :
I'm no one bruh
2024-07-21 03:39:45
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user7208836897755 :
Still struggling with this
2024-07-21 01:18:36
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Colleen Holbrook :
Wow. Me either
2024-07-20 21:32:48
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cheriskow :
HOW????
2024-07-19 17:26:37
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Bobbyjoheart2.0 :
@Bobby Jo
2024-07-19 13:41:34
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Elizabeth_6432 :
ouch
2024-07-18 02:27:04
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Star Santa Cruz :
Truth
2024-07-18 01:16:19
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Dog_dad_FL :
Hate that I instinctively adapt to ppl around me, working hard not to do it anymore
2024-07-17 01:16:50
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heyitsmemel🇨🇦 :
it has taken me 13 years (after being in a BAD relationship) to remember and understand my beliefs and value system. 13 years of limbo and, insecurity, darkness and self abandonment
2024-07-16 12:46:31
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