Relationships With Aly
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KittenDragon :
"clarifying not correcting here" is a good phrase to help while transitioning dynamics
2024-07-16 20:39:08
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LuckyFish :
I started asking "Are YOU frustrated you haven't done it?"
2024-07-16 21:24:51
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Chris_az480 :
We are products of our condition. In this one random instance she asked bc of the diaper. In the other 972 previous instances it was asked to micromanage
2025-07-22 13:50:05
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user8125899811498 :
Could she just have said I have a diaper to put in the trash have you taken it out yet. Why make them guess
2025-06-16 18:25:45
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Ruh roh :
Yeah but she also speaks the same way when she’s being passive aggressive. Thus the reaction
2024-07-16 20:57:49
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🌸Alpha_Lady🌸 $$ :
im staying here. i still want to save this relationship ..
2025-06-04 13:00:03
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Becca :
ok but what if I AM mad he hasn't done it yet
2024-07-17 05:00:25
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farptart :
it's not what you said said, it's the tone (not in this video). that's why I feel judged with a "simple" question
2024-07-16 21:34:55
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everbodysguncle :
I swear some people Deliberately misunderstand things
2024-07-17 01:14:01
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grace :
I learned a long time ago to listen to the words my husband has literally said. I used to assume context that wasn’t there. He’s autistic and he says EXACTLY what he means every single time.
2024-07-16 22:46:51
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Ray.Reactions :
you can also lead with your 'why': "Hey, I'm about to toss this diaper - did you already take out the trash?"
2024-07-17 20:06:19
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Patricia Sanchez8038 :
Or just take out the trash? Why are we making things so complicated 🤷🏼♀️
2024-07-16 20:50:32
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Pioneer Valley Witch :
my husband has a lot of trauma and sometimes hears me say things I 100% did not even imply. in those moments I remind him that I'm autistic, I speak plainly and mean exactly what I say.
2024-07-17 11:07:25
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Mc_Kelly :
fyp
2025-07-31 14:57:11
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BKNYtoday :
Yeah sure. Or just fully communicate from the get go. Or, open the trash can and you’ll have your answer without asking.
2024-07-16 20:01:49
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bella :
my parents need to see this
2024-07-18 15:28:53
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Patrick J Morrow :
YES. AND: ASSUME POSITIVE INTENT
2024-07-16 22:18:37
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Cass :
When my partner responds defensively, I get mad at her for assuming the worst in me and it just snowballs. I know she’s coming from a trauma response though so I need to start trying this.
2024-07-17 03:53:32
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Bex :
I hand him the diaper and say nothing, he gets up and does whatever. Then we move on with the conversation we were in. For some reason the silence works for us.
2024-07-16 23:20:05
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Sara :
Idk also if you think your partner is upset, maybe don’t respond in a very defensive way???
2024-07-16 20:37:51
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EN2700 :
I guarantee that isn't the tone she used when she said it.
2024-09-29 01:08:52
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ryuksdeathnotelau :
I think people should actually listen what their partner is saying instead hearing just a few words and assuming wrong
2024-10-12 16:19:29
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Alexandro :
Why not just start with the reason and then ask the question? That will solve that problem
2024-08-06 11:24:19
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Beth 🖤🗡 :
so many ppl deserve to stay single cause all I saw was a great way to avoid conflict in the future while communicating on both sides. But no, we have to shift blame, and never take accountability 👍
2024-07-16 23:04:56
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