@erinrackham: Just wondering if I’m alone in this or if others experience life this way too? I wish I could just “push through” the PDA shut downs, but it’s physically impossible most of the time. 😕 #pathologicaldemandavoidance #pdaautism #demandavoidance #ADHD
Yep. I have grief feeling like I’ve watched my life pass me by…convincing myself that I don’t have dreams because I know I’ll never have the proper motivation to actually achieve them. Relateable 🥺
2024-09-08 19:37:07
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Jurassicaaa :
Yep. Can’t even figure out how to get myself to do the hobbies that I love when I have time alone and energy. Apparently having fun is a demand 🙃
2024-09-09 00:09:36
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Nelly Efron :
Idk if it’s exactly the same, but for me my PDA takes out all the joy from the things I love and want to do. I’m a musician as well and I’m still committed to music bc it’s my biggest passion, but yes, I feel like I simply cant practice as much as I’m “supposed to” bc of PDA. As soon as it becomes a demand, I don’t want to do it, even tho I really care about it. I get by just fine bc of my relative pitch and get invalidated by everyone when I say I feel like I’m not living up to my capacity lol.
2025-05-27 20:59:11
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ThistleBark :
Yep. Test scores say I should be rich. I’m not. I suspect I was only good at tests because of pattern recognition. 😬
2024-09-10 17:00:16
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JustALittleITGuy :
I believe we require those fillers in order to accommodate our needs. Performing at 40% require the other 60% for recovery. As a mgr of 6 ntwrk engineers, some hard issues need recovery time.
2025-04-29 01:20:44
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Selena Boutilier :
No one has ever been able to put this into words for me. This is exactly my situation.
2024-09-22 06:30:11
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cottage_punk :
It's a hard choice to make, between what is easy unmedicated, and what you dream of doing. I can make myself do things I don't want to do, but the cost is high.
2024-09-08 15:25:35
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🏳️🌈✨Jac✨🇨🇦 :
I relate to all of this. I wish I had answers.. I’m still confused in my 50s 😭
2024-09-08 12:36:25
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e :
YES!!!!! i cant study like it's %20 performance for me...
2024-09-09 17:18:07
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Just Angie :
Can you please elaborate on how the PDA is connected?
2024-09-08 17:55:32
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tofuprincessjosie :
I feel exactly the same, for my GCSEs i got all Bs with no studying, i could have easily got As had i just been bothered to do some studying! I was the same through university and now in work life
2024-09-08 11:28:20
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Charlene Turner :
Yes! 😭
2024-09-08 18:02:56
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bryworm :
i did really well in school but yes it still always felt like underperforming. i recognized that i couldnt make myself study or practice, i always thought i was just incredibly lazy
2024-09-08 21:02:44
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📕TheBendySpoonies(Sarah) 🍉🫒 :
Man Erin you and I sound like were the same person sometimes lol
2024-09-08 13:14:09
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Jenny 🦭 🏳️🌈 :
I just made myself. I'm auDHD too. And I power through and then rest. I started voice lessons again. I also have a muse that helps me. It's grief though. I'm 57. I don't have a choice. I couldn't live
2024-09-08 23:50:38
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Roland McDoland :
Literally same. Struggled needlessly and procrastinated through highschool and crashed and burned first semester college music major.
2024-09-08 21:18:08
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Bethany Ruth :
I understand all of this including the grief. Just a question. What if your 60-70% even 40% is the general populaces 80% or 100%? (more in reply)...
2024-10-18 00:29:14
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DeerMagnet :
Yes, that's how I dropped out of high school 3/4's thru 12rh grade... the fear of knowing I wouldn't be able to complete anything after that was so great! And I'm dang smart!
2024-09-10 22:57:56
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doitBIG :
Yes!!!! I wanted to be a surgeon. I knew I could. I still can but oof 😩
2024-09-10 15:05:46
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jbell0092 :
yep, I graduated Berklee, was the hardest thing I ever did, white-knuckled the whole time while watching others around me not have the same blocks as me. so I always knew I had a "problem"
2024-09-09 18:06:41
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em🌤️ily :
Yes! My mom said, “we thought you were really going to be somebody someday.” I’ve only been diag. adhd but I know there’s audhd happening. I wanted be a music ed major and went with English/Journalism
2024-09-08 23:35:56
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strawberry :
same experience. i settled on an art degree bc i was capable of doing the work for it. never been able to write papers and this had the least of it.
2024-09-10 03:45:05
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Oops all chaos :
I feel this exactly. No solutions found yet. The guilt/sorrow is really evident when people ask, “what do you do?”
2024-09-10 00:29:39
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jennie122688 :
I can see this in myself and also my kids.
2024-09-08 13:03:19
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Mary Christensen :
How, HOW did you accept your PDA diagnosis? (asking as a mom)
2024-09-10 19:38:34
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