@relationshipswithaly: Let’s break it down. This covers so many common themes: dismissing vs. validating feelings, unequal distribution of mental load, escalating and taking breaks. The takeaway I hope you see is that this couple was able to RECOGNIZE when things were escalating and that they needed to pause and try again. The conversation isn’t over, but it is now calm and respectful so that understanding can happen. There will be people frustrated because of how this seems to favor the sweatshirt character. They might say “if she’s doing all the mental labor why should she have to cater to his feelings!” I am 100% for dividing mental load and easing the burden of that partner, AND, I am 100% for recognizing that there are many of these partners driven by anxiety and stress which leads to a lack of flexibility and a dismissal of their partner’s contributions. Both things can be true. I want people to know who to talk about it in an effective way. Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This will not apply to everyone. #… #defensive #defensiveness #communication #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #couplestherapy #couple #dating #marriage #marriageadvice #mft #MentalHealth #wellness #Love #problemsolving #negotiation #conflictresolution #conflict
What happens when your partner does both of those things? “I’m going to tell you everything I want but also just be angry because I assume that you think it’s not valid”
2024-09-22 00:43:29
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user2517611825638 :
So, the Feeler demands the privilege of ignoring the other party's perspective, because the mere expression of a perspective invalidates the feelings. Sounds healthy.🙄
2024-09-20 02:39:00
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Will :
Having an opinion does not magically make you worth listening too. If one person considers multiple facets of a position and the other just feels some kind of way. One of probably wrong.
2024-09-19 22:10:27
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Asstin :
She seems annoying and difficult to be around
2024-09-19 20:41:05
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dvspns :
when will we help women communicate with men and not always force men to change?
2024-09-23 03:11:09
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J.A. Conklin :
ah, but what about when I listen to her reasoning, acknowledge it, then give my reasoning, followed up by a compromise for both parties to somewhere in the middle and it gets ignored...
2024-09-20 02:20:30
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Afvhdghj :
Reasoning vs feeling
2024-10-01 06:54:54
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user7374758493 :
human instinct is more powerful than reasoning. I used to defer to ppl with "good arguments" but then realized in retrospect that I was more often right. and when confronted with that, the Reasoner wo
2024-09-22 02:14:19
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Rj? :
🥰 anger always thrives in these situations
2024-09-19 20:33:33
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kessina7 :
why cant we danload this
2024-11-14 15:46:04
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🐈⬛✨🩷🤍🧡 :
This was me, I'm not saying I'm necessarily right just tell me your reasoning for why you'd rather it your way, maybe it'll make sense and I'll change.
2024-11-13 20:36:43
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YYCKal :
Are you a fly on the wall in our house? I wish our conversations could reset rather than turn in to more arguing 😟
2024-11-10 01:33:02
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Ayaz_Entertainment :
It all opinions have equal weighting.
2024-09-30 15:54:46
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