@relationshipswithaly: 👀When you think you’re helping but it’s still going downhill… Two phrases that aren’t actually helping your partner when they’re upset. At least not right away. 1. I didn’t mean to hurt you. If your partner expresses that they are hurt and the first thing you respond with is “I didn’t mean to hurt you”, you’ve immediately made the conversation about you. In this moment, it doesn’t matter what your intention was, it matters that your partner was hurt. Attend to that first, and THEN once they know you care that they are hurt, there will be space to express your good intentions. 2. I understand. If I’m really upset and my partner says “I understand” without asking any questions, or in an attempt to get me to stop talking about it, I’m going to highly doubt that they actually understand. Before you say “I understand”, make sure you repeat what you’ve heard, you ask questions to clarify, and then double check with them if you’re really getting it. THEN you can say “I understand” in a helpful way. Comment COURSE and I’ll send you a link to my communication course for couples that teaches you everything you need to know for a solid foundation of communication in your partnership. Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This will not apply to everyone. #dating #relationships #relationshipadvice #communication #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #couplestherapy #couple #dating #marriage #marriageadvice #mft #Love #romance #MentalHealth #wellness #love #problemsolving #negotiation #conflictresolution #conflict

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