@domesticblisters: These definitions are from my book Who Deserves Your Love, which is out now! ##whodeservesyourlove##therapistsontiktok##relationships
Where does consistent stonewalling and refusal to take accountability go?
2025-05-15 09:30:39
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Luminaria 🇺🇸🇨🇦 :
NOBODY TOLD ME Screwups were the definition of “relationships are hard.” I thought Mistreatment and Abuse was “relationships are hard.” 🤯🤯🤯.
2025-05-14 19:10:39
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Celi :
Reposting so more people can recognize this
2025-07-14 14:37:44
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Akumu | Neurodiversity Nerd :
I wish I saw this 10 years ago 😅 would have been kinder 🤔
2025-07-14 14:44:26
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Lisa :
I need to know if you were wearing a tiara behind the screen
2025-05-14 16:00:31
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The bender 🍉🔻 :
I have an abusive relationship with our government
2025-05-15 17:36:07
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L :
Omg he WAS abusive
2025-05-15 10:42:47
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Paige 🇨🇦 :
It took years for me to see that it was number 3. Next week is 6 months since I left.
2025-05-15 14:48:16
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poppymillylulu :
Is shouting at the top of your voice and swearing repeatedly while the other person just cries considered intimidation?
2025-05-16 07:47:33
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TASHA DÉESSE :
as someone that’s neurodivergent these definitions are sooo helpful
2025-05-14 22:16:21
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Fanny Tremblay :
aaaaaand, if you've told them repeatedly that a behavior is hurtful and they still do it, stop giving them the benefit of the doubt and understand that they are hurting you on purpose. it's hard to believe sometimes.
2025-05-14 21:39:46
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Jenna :
Bang on…also do we all have this same princess wand from Amazon?
2025-07-04 20:30:01
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Dominic :
Yes. However you assume the experiencer is always correct. You failed to illustrate that many times regular, non harmful behaviour is EXPERIENCED AS hurtful. If then that experiencer tries to put ownership on the one behaving regularly, they're absolutely in the wrong.
2025-07-11 05:44:47
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bunsky wolf :
but what if my partner sees it as harmful behavior if I merely try and interact with my platonic friends and he gets upset in a trauma response fit due to previous partners and makes me out as if I'm the one being harmful for not only interacting with him and people he knows and trusts? I would do anything to keep him from harm but at this point I feel like rapunzel in her tower
2025-05-15 18:15:17
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annabel :
Also for those who need to hear it (like I once did): not all screwups are created equal. Even just one incident of physical assauIt (including SA) is enough to cross the line into the third category, regardless of how it is followed up.
2025-05-15 14:24:41
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Dani :
What if he's lied and betrayed and I've chosen to forgive him but my nervous system goes into fight or flight whenever I'm with him and I flinch when he touches me which hurts him. He's tried to be better but has lied again here and there.
2025-07-11 19:26:34
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Kendra Coffey-Wolfgang :
Question. What if you’re in a situation where your partner is technically making steps to resolve their behaviors but yet the behaviors keep happening? Like they still have to control. They still manipulate. They still meltdown over small things just because they didn’t get their way— but they ARE going to therapy and willing to admit they shouldn’t be doing it? I’m trapped in a situation where there’s acknowledgment and effort for change but for everything he fixes he somehow finds a new worse problem to add to the pile.
2025-07-09 17:03:55
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eldermillenialauntie :
This is like the "Is it bullying?" posters in my school. The kids can recognize it bc they've been trained to. Us adults were not taught to recognize abuse when we were little.
2025-05-14 18:49:52
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janine :
how would neglect fit in to this? would it fall into mistreatment?
2025-05-14 22:08:07
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Lucy :
they need to teach this stuff to kids in school!
2025-05-19 07:43:55
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Em💜 :
And abusive relationships can happen with people that aren’t parents or romantic partners. That took me a long time to learn.
2025-05-14 17:50:35
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hi, i'm Carlos. :
I love this breakdown, thank you! 🙏🏻 ✨
2025-07-15 23:23:24
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ChasingChagall :
Is blaming your feelings for causing his feelings abuse?
2025-05-15 00:21:54
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☆ Crøzly ! [89/70] :
and still my mother has the audacity to say she doesn't abuse me, because she almost never hits me
2025-05-15 10:29:20
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