Castiel123 :
I think it's because the system wanted men to "have a spine", like "treat me like this", and suddenly they don't know what to except from a woman, so in their head they can except "anything" because there is so many "possibilities" because they haven't reflected on that. And this is interesting and harmful, because I genuinly think this is where chivalry was "created" but used wrong, so it already started to die. Instead chivalry become "simping" or "I have treated you like this, so you owe me". It have been associated with that because men doesn't know what to expect. So once deeper in the relationship the chivalry dies, because he never communicated what to expect beforehand, it feels like some kinda ulterior motive, and when he tells her "well I want this and that" she doesn't feel comfortable, and somehow she feels like that's not what she expected as well, so the vibe between waries out, and the chivalry isn't there anymore. Now if we would apply those, like women knowing how to treat a man, and a man knowing what to expect from a man, how could we separate "chivalry" from "expectation" without looking like a currency. Because we all know that honesty is important from the beginning, maybe not too honest, but you know, and there is no "ulterior motive" anymore. Both knows what to expect maybe? And both knows how to treat. Because it was communicated. It was consensual. Because how they treat each other is basically the same as what they should expect from each other ("from side to side"). But the art is not to "expect" from the "treat", because even if it was consensual, it's still not a currency. It's love. You treat each other this way because you love each other, and you don't expect anything back. But somehow the "expect" has already come to you. So basically let them lead each other, let them decide individually when to give "the treat". It's a form of love, but also a test of the trust, not just from the one "giving anything back", but also from the one having that trust to receive it. So how do we actually achieve this? I think it starts from within. Being whole, be in touch with both your masculine and feminine energy whether you are... (1/2)
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