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itsjimbeaux :
Anxiously attached don’t get attached too quickly usually the avoidant lovebombs in the beginning.. also anxious are usually secure until the avoidant starts being hit and cold
2025-06-13 19:46:08
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DaphneLilyQuinnRose :
This conversation started out so strong, and then totally jumped the shark. 🦈 Women are what we’ve been programmed and shamed into being, until we start to reprogram … and then the shit coming at us really gets serious. That’s when men really show their cards, and how they actually think and feel about us. And, as an anxious-avoidant woman, I have some understanding of both sides. I don’t start anxious. We don’t often start the fire. We want happy, love, positive. What starts it is the sudden pullbacks, comments ment to drive insecurity, and games you play. It sets a precedent of something not to be depended on. He may love you, but he’s going to have these moments. It depends on the guy how far they go. It’s not fair for an anxious person to have to bear the brunt of the work. It’s just not fair. But we are those wired towards self awareness, because of societal commentary around needs and emotions. Things don’t work for us as much as they work for avoidants because of the way society values stoicism and productivity. We are forced to be the problem solvers. It’s nothing if not unfair. But, it’s the only way the dynamic stands a chance of collapse. The main mistake made is seeking a partnership in the avoidant on this journey. You can’t motivate or convince them. You have to stay focused on yourself, your needs, your growth, and do everything to keep your chasing of them at bay. They can’t avoid what’s not chasing, you get more secure and learn you can solve your problems on your own. You’re the one doing the emotional labor anyway; just do it for one instead of two. Then he will pay more attention to what you’ve got going on because he’s avoidant not for lack of want for love, but because he’s insecure in his own right. And then you can be the one to decide if he’s worth guiding into the next phase. Take back your power loves.
2025-06-14 22:53:27
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all_is_grace :
The anxious person only acts out when the avoidant shows out with a behavior that shows her she doesn’t feel valued. The anxious doesn’t do anything if the car is running normal!!!
2025-06-03 23:19:52
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Larrin :
“Female” feelings I think this is the first problem
2025-06-03 17:22:48
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Krystal Visions :
“Female feelings” is the issue here lol
2025-06-04 20:30:46
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Adventurous_Patticakes :
God has nothing to do with this!!! 😣 🛑
2025-06-30 00:00:49
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Radmila Yo :
Used to be anxiously attached — trust me ladies, after draining yourself for your job, your kids, and some emotionally unavailable men, you wake up real quick. These days, choose yourself.. not some avoidant project…
2025-06-03 18:27:10
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Ceeceeann🇨🇦 :
Of course anxious have certain behaviour that aren’t healthy that can ignite more issues, it’s a cycle between the two but anxious are more willing to fix and seek therapy and solutions where as avoidance don’t want to do any of these more often than not
2025-05-30 12:07:13
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72115.24 :
But if avoidants lovebomb, you’re giving permission first the person to open and expect…
2025-06-03 16:19:43
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Rebeca :
This conversation has just sparked so much discussion within myself, I have a lot to take away from this, ty !
2025-06-03 18:17:48
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AndreaMarie :
Love this. Thank you so much ❤️
2025-07-26 02:28:22
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Katherine Nichols411 :
absolutely! I've been working on my attachment style and this is right in line.
2025-07-25 16:52:23
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Tara Kidd :
What if you’re not sounding any alarms. What if you have your workouts, work and hobbies too. Both people are content and no alarms are going off? Things are progressing at a steady pace. Then the securely attached female falls in love. Let’s say 6 months in… then they dump you out of know where? There was no anxious fear just peace and harmony. Why does the avoidant still flee?
2025-06-05 20:47:03
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Trend Ripple :
I can't event listen after that
2025-07-25 02:05:50
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Andrea Perry :
What if u were very clear with what u wanted in the beginning and they agreed, but then 3 years later they never made a single move towards that
2025-06-05 00:19:34
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Mandee❤️ :
This is packed full of detailed information! Thank you ! I need more !
2025-06-25 15:52:21
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jasminaivanovic_ :
Everytime we argued or had to deal with an issue that was upsetting us, I legit would say, hey please, if you need space please just communicate it to me, he never would. He would just ghost me and run off to another room and ignore me until next morning
2025-07-21 00:17:04
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carmen_alwaysblessed :
I am 42. I am learning all of this the hard way.. Im actually am glad the man I fell head over heels for pulled away.. DO NOT GET ME WRONG, my heart is absolutely shattered.. oh does it hurt. But now I know once I heal what I need to do and be aware of when I do decide to invest in a relationship again..
2025-07-15 16:06:04
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safora.nwokoro :
Bless this man but seriously don’t understand anything he is talking about
2025-07-02 10:07:57
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Soni :
I hate podcasters that ask a question, followed by a monologue, followed by several more questions.
2025-07-20 15:50:57
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April ☀️ Sunshine :
Dont agree with all this
2025-06-29 18:02:04
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MakNubz :
both attachment styles are extremely unhealthy. I've been both, may switch on and off depending on the situation but I am self aware. I think what really needs to happen is people to be SELF AWARE of their negative damaging qualities
2025-06-29 22:05:57
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___alyssum :
saying alot but without saying nuch at all and contradicting each other.. very confusing... like being un a relationship ironically with an avoidant
2025-06-22 14:52:47
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Redbar - Women’s Clothing Shop :
No those stats are wrong. I wanted to hear what the other guys was saying 🤨
2025-06-03 20:41:35
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