@toren_wolf: This feels so awful while it is happening. And even though I understand now why it is happening, and that it is not my fault, my brain still insists on beating me up about it. I tried so hard to stop it while it was happening, but it was so intense and so physical, it was like fighting a tidal wave. all the people there were so nice and I would have loved to engage, but my brain just completely shut down. 🥺 I'm so grateful to Toren and my husband for being so understanding and supportive. I don't know how I got so lucky.💕 Can anyone relate? #autistic #adhd #shutdown #meltdown
Toren is absolutely right. He has the compassion and understanding you instilled in him. Go you!
2025-06-02 20:32:53
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Tsu_Do-Nym :
This is relatable and often mislabeled as “anxiety.”
2025-06-03 12:12:33
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LosinIt12 :
“You gotta give yourself grace…” wow look at what an amazing advocate you’ve been for your son. He’s able to reciprocate that support, how magical. ❤️
2025-07-09 04:17:23
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Megs 🇨🇦 :
When Toren popped in I fully cried 🥰 what a sweet Boy loving his momma 💖
2025-06-03 12:32:06
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Skyler Terry-Ann Vogel :
"You gotta give yourself grace remember? Like you do for me" that was the sweetest most validating thing ever and it's because he gets that from you. You're a great mother! Everyone's a bit socially awkward at times. Even even if they aren't neurodivergent.
2025-06-24 14:44:18
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ShelbyRose :
your son and husband are amazing! YOU ARE AMAZING❤️
2025-06-02 20:26:23
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Sheila :
I get exhausted and overwhelmed in social gatherings, I'm thankful for the friends that don't give up on asking me to come to gatherings and understand that I have good days 😄
2025-07-26 17:25:25
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KatKitty🇨🇦 :
Autistic shutdowns are never fun. I don't have them as often as I did when I was a child. You are doing great and sometimes it's just a hard day and you can't help that ❤️
2025-06-02 20:21:52
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Priscilla :
I have adhd and depression. I get like this all the time.
2025-07-10 09:38:35
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Isabel Montoya :
I lov how your husband has always seem to just understand he doesnt have to say much to comfort you.
2025-07-07 21:55:51
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Bree Brackin :
Toren is amazing <3 love how he came in at the end to comfort you. Autism and adhd is such a hard thing to have my son is going down that path of diagnosis way to go mumma for doing what you could at the time you were incredibly brave and unfortunately those who don’t have it won’t understand but you got this
2025-06-02 20:26:11
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shey :
As a mama, thank you for sharing this and making us aware. My son has a couple of friends who’s parents can’t handle the gatherings I have for the kids. I will make a point to let them all know they are welcome to come and go as their comfort level allows, or just drop off and take some food home and we’ll arrange a ride home if it’s not a good day. I think providing a quiet comfort corner wouldn’t be too hard to set up because even I could use a moment during these times. Mama Wolf you are not a horrible person, we need this awareness so we can learn how to be more supportive and understanding.
2025-06-03 17:22:41
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harper :
Toren is right. I'm glad you have a strong family to support you. It is so difficult. I hope you feel better soon
2025-06-02 20:24:56
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Rebecca Bee :
❤️❤️Thank you for sharing your experience. How can help make the situation better if we see someone doing this, would asking you if you wanted to go for a little walk help?
2025-07-30 01:53:51
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James… :
First hope your better
2025-06-02 20:16:50
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court :
Is there anything anyone around you could do to help you in moments like this?
2025-06-04 12:55:52
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Whimsical Candi :
You have such great men in time life to comfort you. My husband doesn't understand.
2025-06-02 20:25:20
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Cy3i :
Thank you so so much for sharing this. I don’t feel so alone
2025-06-02 20:26:33
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Sandra Lee :
Oh I’m so sorry this happened. I can’t even imagine this. I dislike engaging with ppl at functions. For me (only) the more I ignore the more they come. I used to get panic attack. Not sure why, but it stopped. I’m good with doing morning activities. Dislike afternoon
2025-06-03 19:14:36
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SoothingEva :
you are never a horrible person, your brain just needs a break and thats ok ❤️you are wonderful! They love you so much, that's a testament to how wonderful you are
2025-06-02 20:20:08
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Anastasia :
I have CPTSD, and do the same thing at social gatherings. It's just based on the fact that I'm scanning for dangers all the time, and my brain shuts down. All of my energy dissappear. I disassociate.
Thank you for sharing! You and Toren are helping so many people! ❤️And he's right, give yourself grace and understanding. You're doing so good and you don't even see it.
2025-06-03 06:05:52
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Danny Lowe :
Both you & Toren are amazing. I have just been diagnosed with ASD & ADHD at the age of 59.
2025-06-08 21:29:34
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Tina :
can we get that without being autistic? I have ADHD and I feel like i do that sometimes
2025-07-12 23:33:43
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mrs.sweet :
My husband is very extroverted, a musician. I am very introverted in certain settings. In my business I am self assured and can be assertive when needed. Social settings wreck me.
2025-06-02 22:54:31
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