@relationshipswithaly: Real people, real relationships. How do you handle conversations about your perpetual problems? (Because according to @gottmaninstitute 69% will be recurring)… In this convo (which was drastically shortened to fit under 3 mins) we tackled 💙defensiveness 💙assumptions 💙values 💙validation 💙listening 💙solutions 💙feelings Wanna solve these issues with your partner? Comment MASTERCLASS and I’ll teach you how for free. Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. THIS WILL NOT APPLY TO EVERYONE.
There was no solution tho. The problem is perpetuating and will still cause conflict and resentment between them. They just agreed to not bring it up whenever it happens because it’s caused by clashing values. I can’t see why it’s healthy.
2025-06-14 07:51:18
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Blah :
This level of comfort makes me feel uncomfortable
2025-06-10 06:36:44
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Jakob Jardin :
This framing is tough because she “can be upset about it” and he “can be upset she’s upset about it” and it doesn’t actually resolve any resentment. If she’s not resolving her issue with it why would he resolve his resentment?
2025-06-25 22:43:54
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freddie benson ❀ :
more people need these discussions modeled for them. my fiancé and i have been fortunate enough for couples therapy but this resource for free is SO valuable for relationships
2025-06-03 22:07:16
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FindersKeep :
I think a lot of times, we set expectations of others based on our values (or fears - being judged for instance). You guys communicate this so great. You may have already talked about this, but I would be curious to understand WHY. (Why do you value the phone being away for instance - or WHY do you not think it's a big deal)
2025-06-09 15:20:46
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UrsaMiaHulk :
That didn’t look like a good outcome for him. But great work being done. 🥰
2025-06-05 08:00:07
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juliebonner17 :
Majority of these annoyances can be solved with one thought: I’m only responsible for me. My thoughts, reactions, inaction is all that should take up my headspace
2025-06-11 12:39:59
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TBird :
I’m getting a divorce so that conversations like THIS are a possiblity one day. I hope ❤️
2025-06-04 16:56:46
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taylorjames.ca :
It’s hard to let your partner just be mad about something. Not everything. Ed’s a solution. That’s hard for typically socialized dudes.
2025-06-13 05:11:37
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Vale Andrades Kejaya :
MASTERCLASS
2025-06-29 19:31:43
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getkidstobehave :
be grateful you have a good Christian man and let this go...grace and mercy🙏💕
2025-06-23 12:29:55
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bibimbap3018 🍉🍉🍉 :
I as a psych major who was able to model this to my bf until he also adapted it😆 a win-win for us😆
2025-06-12 13:02:21
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Dami :
I relate with him so much
2025-06-09 19:50:24
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Unknown :
how to have this healthy relationship
2025-06-05 13:09:48
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J9 :
The REAL problem hasn’t come to the surface. It’s not the phone….WHY does it bother you? What value of yours is he seemingly trampling on? You do seem to care that he doesn’t value “whatever it is” as much as you do. Did the phone come out at church and you feel he needs to be more religious? Are you concerned with others around you and their perception that he isn’t perfect or godly enough? Is it that he’s disrespecting family time?! I like your conversation but need the Why? At some point it’s like an “agree to disagree” thing. He simply doesn’t hold value in this thing that you do. If it’s a big thing to you then your issue will get bigger. If it’s smaller why can’t you let it go?
2025-06-25 17:58:27
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bretsetzer315 :
🙏🙏🙏
2025-07-30 01:42:45
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Felicity Torres :
😁😁😁
2025-07-15 23:32:42
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PitMasterWannabee :
Maybe I'm wrong but isn't it exhausting working though every little bump and expression. I mean it's death by 1000 papercuts. My wife forgives me the moment I mess up and I her.. It doesn't have to be held under a microscope for resolution.
2025-06-03 22:29:51
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Edward Tagg :
this is all completely surface... youre not looking deeper at your control issues, deeper connection, and abandonment issues
2025-06-23 11:04:58
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