@dr.sherrie: They’ll show up with gifts. They’ll post the cute photos. They’ll tell everyone what a loving grandparent they are. But when it comes to you, the parent holding it all together? Silence. Disinterest. Dismissal. This isn’t true involvement. It’s performance. Because real connection means respecting the parent, not bypassing them. You’re not imagining it, and you’re not wrong for wanting more. #podcast #podcaster #childhoodtrauma #toxicmother #newbookrelease #traumahealing #familyscapegoat #toxicfamily #toxicfather #gaslighting #scapegoat #nocontact #dysfunctionalfamily #youmatter #narcissisticabuse #cptsd #toxicrelationshipabuse #emotionalabuse #toxicsiblings #childhoodwounds #manipulation #breakingthecycle #boundaries mo#codependency #empath #innerchild #loveyourself #narcissisticfamilies
When I reflected on it, my in-laws aren’t even that interested in the kids either. Toys wrent age appropriate, they didn’t even know my youngest goes to kindy despite us talking about it, but their idea of involvement is just seeing the kids - not knowing them
2025-06-07 17:42:04
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🐢lydia🌹 :
"I'd really like to see my grandchild more"
"Great, send me a text when you'd like to get together"
*crickets*
2025-06-07 22:43:47
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Laura Dale :
Can you talk about a SIL who told both me and my BF that she has to convince my brother, when he reacts to something she does, she tells him it’s “his childhood trauma” talking. I partly think it’s because my brother talks about how terrible her family is, but I’m just not sure…both my husband and I have went no contact with them. My parents went no contact as well, he calls my mom the most horrific names
2025-07-26 21:04:40
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ohnaira :
I hate the way grandparents use their grandchildren as a “do over”
2025-06-10 16:37:49
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WrittenInPurple :
It’s easier for them to start over with your kids because they are a “blank slate” that hasn’t experienced them at their worst than it is for them to take accountability for their actions and make things right with their own kids.
2025-06-09 15:23:21
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dahliagrl :
They only tolerate me because I control access to my kids. That's not the relationship I want, but the one they setup.
2025-06-07 17:33:43
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Alisia Lalchan Mohammed :
my first Christmas as a new mom some immediate family from my husband's side bought presents for my husband and new born alone
2025-06-10 13:12:51
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Mia Ashley :
my husbands family literally acts like I don’t exist. They want access to my son but want nothing to do with me and I’m the one that controls the relationship. I’m getting ready to go no contact with my child and them. It’s SO hurtful.
2025-06-09 01:28:52
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katebrovont :
This is my MIL 🙃😭
2025-07-01 23:32:20
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Bec :
no, they are low effort grandparents too
2025-06-08 01:24:10
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vypeters :
Most of said family has never asked to visit my son (he’s 2.5) but I am expected to bring him to them.
2025-06-18 06:08:27
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Jo :
My kids don’t get any of that 🤦🏻♀️a couple of the grandkids are the favorites though
2025-06-20 16:55:26
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Ms.K♥️ :
You just described my relationship with my in laws! They love my kids but hate me, they just put up with me when they have to. Im truly over it
2025-06-07 21:08:28
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100%Ass Kickin' Babe :
thank you for validating me. 😭 ❤
2025-06-08 09:38:00
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Virgo on Fire ♍️ :
Oof this one hit hard. I would hear my mother tell my son she loved him but I never heard that from her to me. 🥺 My kids are adults now and they bring it up how I was/am treated. 😔
2025-06-07 16:53:03
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marissakay0208 :
Am I crying? No 😭
2025-06-13 03:13:39
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Jess :
Mine takes photos of my daughter (their granddaughter) and I could be sat right next to her and they either zoom in to cut me out or take photos of her with everyone else. I don't know how to express how hurtful this is. They came to my house to eat. I was hosting.
2025-06-10 09:09:40
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M2023M :
What about grandparents that favor other grandkids?! It’s so frustrating
2025-06-08 03:45:28
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Ashley Dona :
Oh so it’s not weird when my 3 year old asks me what do you think of grandma and why does grandma love me but not love you?
2025-06-20 19:33:54
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Midnight Butterfly Designs :
It feels like my mother is treating my son as her "do over". I've been trying to put into words how invisible that has made me feel (she doesn't ignore me but there's little affection or talking, and even though she helps around the house, it feels like it's done out of spite/because it's not up to her standards.) Thanks for giving me the words to this horrible feeling.
2025-07-18 17:08:22
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Luna J.D 📖 ✍️ :
Yeah my interaction with my own parents felt like a divorce couple doing scheduling time. I did voice that and they didn’t care. Said if I didn’t like it they would take me to court to guarantee access. I thought allowing them access when it seemed they treated them well was the right thing but When they started mistreating them ( my kids opened up ) I went no contact. We are in court as we speak regarding access.
2025-06-10 12:20:42
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amberandjune :
What if my inlaws don’t show interest in my kids at all? Lol
2025-06-10 03:08:45
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OMLAGAredesign :
my mom "such luck he turned out so wonderful, wonder why"
2025-06-07 16:48:15
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Kylee :
MIL literally “talks” to me through my baby rather than addressing me directly. It is bizarre. I’ve stopped responding completely when this happens
2025-07-05 01:31:16
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jilly447 :
My parents split their will between my sister( happily married but childless ) and my children . Completely left me out .
2025-06-07 18:10:08
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