Matthias J Barker
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Lola :
It is sad that as parents we have to be careful of what we say because we might offend our children !!! And yet they can say anything they want to anyone they choose and we are supposed to just take it!!
2025-07-02 12:50:43
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School for Emotional Welbeing :
Thank you! All loving parents need to be reminded of this. I’m one of them.
2025-09-02 19:05:54
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XOPH :
I sent a video to my mum… She reported me to the police & I was arrested for malicious communications 😂
2025-08-04 14:07:50
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Your Best Self-ie :
Adult kids do the exact same thing to their parents. Friends do it to friends. Couples do it. Who doesn't? So your solution is we walk around asking everyone permission so we don't hurt anyone's feelings or dare to hold anyone accountable for their actions. This creates a world of people not knowing how to resolve any issues in their life.
2025-08-10 00:21:17
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JeannieCreamer :
Give me a break you know we have to walk on eggshells now as parents even when we are complementary and say nice things about the family and the house and how wonderful things are still eggshells so you don’t help that
2025-06-13 18:31:42
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KmWindham94 :
Omg! How terrible! Making a suggestion that maybe an adult child could take to be successful!!! And the parents are the problem… ok. Maybe wannabe therapists should stop leading questions based on common human behaviors to suggest that every parent is a narcissist just to exploit and make money.
2025-06-14 09:18:03
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Sandy🆘🇺🇸 :
So as a parent with adult children how do I phrase that? Our “kids” are pretty good about coming to us for advice, but, every once in awhile I can hear them wince, so there’s definitely things we can improve upon
2025-06-13 18:49:16
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NutMeg1214🍒🍒 :
All of this. so much!! And they wonder why their AK are like , “nope.” It’s never just advice it’s always got tone of “I’m the authority and expert you have to listen to me and do what I say.”
2025-06-13 18:19:12
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AmyZ :
I didn't have the best childhood and I learned people pleasing to keep the peace. That then impacted my parenting style. I can see how I've used this to try and help (give my opinion) without upsetting anyone. It's really about my own discomfort. That's not their issue. I'll pay attention to approaching the conversation more directly.
2025-06-13 19:31:59
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Chiarihead :
All this just exhausts me. I will just ask about the weather and just smile and wave. I’m tired of adult children criticizing me.
2025-06-14 07:37:16
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Jer Unt :
I don't know how he does it but he perfectly sums up my mother every time.
2025-06-13 20:54:07
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Vanessa Luque :
Yes. Yes. Yes.
2025-06-13 18:15:36
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Gina Abromitis :
I believe this is called parenting. 🤦♀️
2025-06-14 01:40:01
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Rebecca Welker Greco :
Lord - we can’t say anything right? 😂
2025-06-16 23:29:37
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AngelMomma313 :
I am trying so hard to ask "would you like any advice or would you like me to just listen?" and "how can I best support you with this?" I want to keep trying.
2025-06-14 02:36:08
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zandilions :
not 100% related but we were in an accident (not our fault) a while back and my fiance's best friend was standing by and whenever my fiance said he wanted to do something his friend would as if he can share his thoughts and my fiance appreciated that he asked and didn't just say what he should rather do....
2025-06-13 19:26:09
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user7067674304576 :
Would you be willing to give us an example of how to ask permission? I believe I may be guilty and my children tolerate it well but I would like to not do what you are describing.
2025-06-14 15:02:42
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Maureen :
I feel like I totally walk on eggshells all the time even though I have babysat their 2 children for 6 years while providing food , diapers, clothes, and toys. I have never got a thank you from my son… all I get is criticism and I think that almost being 40 we should be able to sit down and have a conversation. I always say I’m so proud of him… never ever even subtly criticize him.
2025-06-15 00:56:38
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Beth :
Can you give parents an example of how to phrase it if you weren’t adding the suggestion?
2025-06-18 12:10:36
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Star :
You shouldn't sugarcoat and just speak honestly with your kids being responsible for your finances and their lives
2025-06-14 04:20:31
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Lisa💜 :
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been asked a question by my Dad and I didn’t give the ‘right’ answer and we either end up in a fight or I’m getting scolded.
2025-06-14 14:39:08
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j b15 :
lol at all the triggered “great” parents in the comments. He’s clearly showing both sides and how to help. Do some self reflection sometime and maybe your adult children will like you again.
2025-06-14 12:45:57
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user960328401360 :
No it’s not what I mean or implying. That’s how they’re interpreting it.
2025-06-17 12:42:42
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6ixPsychologist :
Also I believe our interpretation of what’s said to us is really important. If one can work on their confidence, it can lead to not interpreting neutral questions negatively
2025-06-16 20:05:11
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Cassy007 :
Let them be irresponsible and face their own consequences. You don’t have to bail them out either. Just be there and listen
2025-06-19 15:58:39
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