natalie louise
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Kelsey Syble :
In my experience, avoidants take things super slow.
2025-06-28 03:12:59
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baba_desperada :
I am avoidant and this introspection was amazing. This is exactly how I feel. I want you to have hobbies, interests, friends of your own, goals that have nothing to do with me, A LIFE that has a place for me in it, but does not revolve around me.
2025-06-16 17:20:34
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_yourfaveeeescorp :
I feel seen . You put this out perfectly
2025-07-01 07:13:05
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Author Stephanie Laterza :
My past experience dating avoidants is that while they seem independent on the surface, they’re quite emotionally immature and behave in an almost juvenile manner, especially when confronted about deeper relationship issues. That childish, Peter Pan-like behavior seems to be excused, however, by our capitalistic society, as long as they’re materially successful. 🙄
2025-06-16 13:32:44
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Droue :
They love self sufficient people so they can neglect us 🥺
2025-06-24 19:22:05
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Bruhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :
Avoidants end up with avoidants 😂. Deserve each other
2025-06-17 03:24:38
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King_Skye :
Avoidants wear their trauma like armour.
2025-06-16 12:25:32
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Fitness | Health & Wealth :
my man starts pulling back when I give him more attention than I give myself and it reminds me to pour into myself and my goals/hobbies. But hes super loving and a great partner. Avoidants aren't bad people. It's usually clingy people that have no life of their own that try to blame them
2025-06-17 00:27:52
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Jess :
I literally can't 😂 no for real I'm going through it 😳
2025-07-23 14:21:57
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Nemesis :
As an independent woman, I still require vulnerability. It’s not mutually exclusive. They need to just date fellow avoidants.
2025-06-15 20:43:30
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cammonique :
Avoidants are afraid of commitment
2025-06-17 09:01:39
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Alex Wiener :
As a secure attacher 🤣 i never admire hyper independence from avoidants, it means he/she is afraid of opening up and letting someone help to avoid being vulnerable, they dont think they deserve it, that is low self esteem, i feel empathy, but not attraction.
2025-06-18 02:30:24
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user2234555667 :
idk I'm an avoidant guy and working on it but I wouldn't call being self sufficient as attractive to me, it's really just the bare minimum if you're an adult.
2025-06-15 23:09:58
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Roark :
Until they can’t meet even below the bare minimum to keep relationships alive
2025-06-16 23:27:11
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may ੈ✩₊ :
I feel like this depends on what kind of avoidant they are. A lot of avoidants love it and want their partner to be dependent on them but ironically they also withdraw once they feel too relied on but when you then take some space they wanna pull you back in
2025-06-16 13:54:10
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Moira Jo | Fearful Avoidant💋 :
Yes avoidant men does not want to be responsible for your entire life as well as your emotions. You need to be secure to not need them for everything.
2025-07-05 17:29:34
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Eli :
It called situationship. Avoidants are fit and enjoy situationship.
2025-06-16 10:24:13
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💋 :
For short, they are in their feminine energy hahahab
2025-06-26 07:27:32
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Splendor🎀🍭 :
No, we are attracted to you if you are emotionally available to us, validating and welcoming at first, we start to crave you, but the moment you display any action were we feel judged or not heard, paranoia and panic kicks in, we check out mentally, emotionally and eventually we run physically, so if your avoidant avoids you, check yourself, you gave up a vibration at a point no matter how inconspicuous that made us feel threatened, it is never because of all you mentioned
2025-06-16 05:38:02
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Nutella Pie :
He ASKED ME to pull my guard down. When I did he left me.
2025-06-16 17:30:36
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María Carolina Sánchez :
Broooo my ex told the exact same thing that he was drawn to my independence and when I needed support (eg had to go the ER) he told me that when people need to rely on him it gave him the ick 💀
2025-07-11 16:10:08
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boogiewoogiebozo :
oh so just basically have a connection with someone like what
2025-06-16 23:04:00
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Abby :
My ex was a lot like things you said. He has such a big focus on money and always thinking he needs to saving as much as possible and live on the bare minimum. But that’s not living. And no matter how much I tried to explain that to him he didn’t understand or want to. He’d super cheap everything from food to gifts minus a few things here and there. He’s also so hyper-independent which is nice but so am I and I loved when he did take care of me no matter how stubborn I was about it but he was just as stubborn when I tried to take care of him. He also could not understand why it was so hard for me to ask for help no matter how much I explained to him why it just wouldn’t get though to him. He’s very much has both anxious and avoidant attachment styles. And I have more of an anxious one. We both look for validation from our parents and his with his parents is what ruined our relationship.
2025-06-16 04:08:40
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Toddrick :
Even if you possess all of those qualities, if they are not healed eventually something will make them disconnect and run. Having said that, I do have a lot of compassion for my ex (DA) and avoidant people in general. They are just deeply wounded souls surviving the only way they know how. It doesn’t excuse their hurtful behavior, though. They still need to self reflect, take accountability, and do the work so they don’t continue hurting people that care about them.
2025-06-19 21:22:32
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Angibaby :
Mine definitely was attracted to my independence but then got offended by me “not needing a man” about the time I started to feel I could depend on him is when he started pulling away. It’s so frustrating because what did that teach me? That I can’t trust anyone. Yay more anxiety.
2025-06-16 23:06:42
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