Men are horrible conversationalists. A guy will ask you out, tell you everything about himself and won’t ask you a single thing about yourself💀
2025-06-16 08:59:29
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FEjane 🇦🇺 :
The gap between male friendships and female friendships is also what plays a huge part in “the friend zone”. Women ask and answer questions and do emotional labour for each other while men don’t do that with each other so when a man and woman become friends she’s offering him a deeper level of friendship that men dont offer each other. So he’s been offered emotional labour and delving deeper and to him hat isn’t friendship that’s more so he starts to catch feelings while she’s just doing what she usually does in friendships and thus creates the friendzone.
2025-06-16 21:21:59
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xiao.cha90 :
I'm curious about the root cause of said problems.
2025-07-27 20:05:18
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Elle Freem :
They didn’t evolve past parallel play
2025-06-16 12:04:01
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Marzipan Pig :
I'm not convinced these are actually friendships, when they're formed around hobbies and interests only, and they know nothing about each other's lives. Maybe we need a new word for this, like: hobbyship
2025-06-16 11:53:13
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That Art Lady🇨🇦 :
My husband has a weekly PlayStation “date” with his lifelong friend. After these, I ask him about his friends life, his new baby, wife etc and he often says they didn’t even talk about these things at all
2025-06-16 16:19:04
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dreamwithinadream :
The fact that men have to “train” themselves to care about people is wild to me
2025-06-17 19:09:43
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Fatelessxvx :
This idea that the way women handle friendships is somehow superior to how men do it is asinine. Male friendships aren’t lesser just because they’re built on action, shared experience, and loyalty instead of constant emotional probing. We connect differently not worse. Just because we don’t treat every conversation like a therapy session doesn’t mean we lack depth. Some of the strongest bonds out there are between men who say little but do everything when it counts. Stop acting like difference equals dysfunction.
2025-06-18 01:16:28
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BlackGirlMishap :
My marriage is ending because my husband treated everything like a state secret and his lack of followup is not all of it but this is such helpful for my understanding.
2025-07-06 14:04:55
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kindawastingtime :
I think we can go deeper.. do you think men lack curiosity about others? My experience is that their curiosity is satiated a lot quicker than women. I think curiosity is a muscle that has atrophied in men. :(
2025-06-16 10:38:19
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Dominique :
so they have surface level friendships, but refuse to believe those friends are capable of causing harm cuz "I've known him for over a decade! He's a good guy." 😳 I probably know more about a random coworker if we work the same shift for a month.
2025-06-17 05:44:47
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NotaTweeter16 :
my partner was going for a drink with one of his closest friends. i asked him to ask his friend if his friend was happy in his life. he said he cldnt do it bc it wld be weird. it wld be weird to check in on one of ur closest friends???
2025-06-16 10:50:01
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QueenBee🇨🇦 :
I'm so exhausted teaching men how to socialize like adults.
2025-06-16 19:47:54
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Bee :
So asking your buddy a question is prying but asking a woman what kind of underwear she's wearing is not
2025-06-18 00:34:44
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Mon :
And this is why I get so BORED where I talk to men 😔
2025-06-16 21:35:36
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nmdc :
if i don't ask its because ;
1. its not my business
2. I dont care
2025-06-17 05:43:58
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boricuaM13 :
Dating apps for 4 years. Men ages 28-50 cannot hold or maintain a conversation. They’re not curious. Cannot communicate. And honestly there isn’t even kindness or empathy present in them. I’m convinced most men don’t even like women, or at the very least don’t see them as a human being. It’s horrifying and sad. But I don’t care. I’ve lost all empathy
2025-06-17 15:27:17
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helloitshope :
I think this also shows in the content they share. For women, we share tiktoks that our friend will find funny/relatable but for men it is what they find funny/relatable. It is as if they don't litsen or care about knowing you
2025-06-16 12:05:11
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Yvonne 🧚♀️🦄 :
so, devils advocate. women were never taught to socialize either, we HAD to learn to get anywhere. I'm a shy person and had to practice like crazy. men have never had to rely on connection to advance before, now they do and they're failing to adapt.
2025-06-16 19:31:54
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Fuckoff92 :
All my man does is ask follow up questions
2025-07-26 03:04:26
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🍉varsha🍉 :
its so sad how differently socialised men are. i'm not particularly sympathetic to men but i cant imagine how isolating it feels to be so emotionally distant from your friends. its not that its easy to be vulnerable when you're a woman, but you get accustomed to it and its a lot easier to take that first step when the people around you are being vulnerable as well.
2025-06-16 14:41:27
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Likkies :
‘Socialised into bonds that are formed side to side, not face to face’ - mind blowing.
2025-06-17 10:15:38
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Ryan :
100% agree men can't view follow ups as invasive. I think their is an energy spend to being vulnerable/open and sometimes men need that scaffolding to get up above life's problems and for a time be free of the weight of things.
1 friend broke up with his gf. I left dinner not knowing anything deeper than, it wasn't working.
Think as men we confuse deeper with prying and don't want to pick at a sore point.
2025-06-16 08:37:24
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Jemlet :
conversely I wonder if this is also the reason some men have formed unnecessary emotional attachments to some women. I've had certain men get crushes on me when we were a poor match, based purely on "no one has ever talked to me like you"
I've always felt like my baseline for friendship based emotional vulnerability was taken as purely romantic vulnerability by some men.
2025-06-16 16:07:40
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jarrahnc :
this is the first time that I've heard this phrased that didn't push responsibility/blame back onto women and I really appreciate that
2025-06-16 10:00:30
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