@anxiouslyalej: Why Avoidants Don’t Panic Until You’re Really Gone ⬇️ Right after the breakup, avoidantly attached people often feel relief - not heartbreak. Their nervous system calms down because the intimacy and emotional demands are gone. They mentally reframe the relationship, focusing only on the negatives to justify their exit. But here's what happens over time… 🧠 As you stay in no contact, their sense of control begins to erode. At first, they assume you’re just waiting. But when you start healing, moving on, or dating someone new… That’s when panic sets in. Because for an avoidant, it was never about you. It was about having access to you. They didn’t grieve the loss of the relationship. They grieve the loss of control. And when they realize you’re no longer an option, that you’re not coming back.. They start spiraling. That regret you’re seeing? It’s not always love. It’s ego. It’s ownership. It’s the loss of a safety net they thought would always be there. Don’t confuse them crashing out for genuine change. It’s not your presence they miss. It’s their power over you. #feminineenergy #womensdatingadvice #blackcatenergy #datingforwomen #relationships #datingadvice #avoidantattachment #datinginyour30s #datingcoachforwomen #avoidantattachment #breakups #theonewhogotaway

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