@anxiouslyalej: Why He Won't Commit, But Won't Let You Go (Explained) ⬇️ Ever been stuck with someone who won’t commit, but refuses to let you move on? Here's the harsh truth: this isn’t love - it’s strategy. Why does he do this? Let’s break it down clearly: 1️⃣ You're His Emotional Safety Net He pursues women who seem out of reach - and when they reject him, he leans back on you. You're his reassurance, the comfortable fallback. 2️⃣ Control Through Confusion Keeping you unsure about where you stand traps your attention. It keeps you stuck in a cycle of wondering, waiting, and hoping, preventing you from leveling up or finding someone better. 3️⃣ It's an Ego Boost Every time you come back or stay after he rejects commitment, he gets a confidence boost. You become the story he brags about: “If I wanted her, she'd come running.” Sadly, staying proves him right every time. ✨ Reality Check: You deserve someone who values you fully - not someone who makes you question your worth. When you lower your standards to keep someone around, you don’t gain them - you lose yourself. Your power lies in valuing yourself enough to walk away. 📌 Save this, share it, and never settle for less again. #feminineenergy #womensdatingadvice #blackcatenergy #datingforwomen #relationships #datingadvice #avoidantattachment #datinginyour30s #datingcoachforwomen #avoidantattachment #breakups
Alejandra Maria
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Friday 04 July 2025 01:18:12 GMT
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Caligirl55 :
It’s straight up manipulation
2025-07-04 01:30:22
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SmileformeJudy :
My ex literally did this.
2025-07-04 03:10:06
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ruma_0809 :
Thanks for sharing
2025-07-12 01:59:37
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Makeup.chersoumi :
this is someone with dissmive avoidant attachment style....I've been there..run
2025-07-04 07:33:55
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QianaTarah :
He plays because she allows it. That's the only reason.
2025-07-08 12:59:21
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borigo :
Okay, how do you flip it/fix it?
2025-07-08 00:09:30
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AnchonyBanchony :
The rule is that the one that cares less/is less in love has a bigger responsability to make sure the other one is ok.
2025-07-08 12:13:44
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Eh Pat :
If he doesn’t want to be with you, don’t insist
2025-07-07 15:36:03
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drrjc :
UGH so relevant
2025-07-15 05:07:54
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2wheels2eighteen :
My ex said this exact line . I was dancing with someone else at a mutual friends party . da left with me & pulled me back in 🫡…… same , exact, pattern….. she will come back for validation every few months .. what do I do?
2025-07-04 06:13:08
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JanedoesASMR :
The fact that she said "I know he's the right person" shows she had already been manipulated into thinking this
2025-07-04 08:20:30
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MzKitty :
When someone tells you something like this, believe them and move on.
2025-07-04 02:56:52
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pierwszedrugie722 :
One of the guys I dated did say the ‘I don’t want you hurt, I can’t get over my issues, open up and trust yet’ and he said ‘let’s not continue’ which is ok but the guy in the video kept pulling her back and that’s fkd up
2025-07-04 07:59:00
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dreamsculptress :
Pro tip: the sooner you cut this cycle off the less it will hurt. I played into this for too long and it hurt so much to ultimately have to cut him off/block him on everything and let silence speak for me. 😔
2025-07-04 06:20:05
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Shannon Campbell2785 :
Took a minute, but been there, done that, and NEVER AGAIN.
2025-07-04 05:01:33
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Ruby Mones :
the reason why I removed myself on his life. deleted and blocked him. never see him for 11 months now. I can tell you it wasn't easy but I am good now.🥰
2025-07-04 11:24:37
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CaroB :
Dismissive Avoidant.. They don't change. Won't wake up one day and suddenly realise your value. Save yourself pain..Walk!
2025-07-05 11:54:16
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macareuxmoine :
I’m not going to admit here how many years of my life you just described. I am sad but at least… no more!
2025-07-04 23:10:57
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Hope Ann :
They always come back when he sees another guy ready to scoop you up and give you the world. Stop letting these avoidants run off a great guy who’s ready
2025-07-05 01:02:51
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Live&Learn :
Absolutely 💯- I’ve just fallen for it - but could never have seen it coming - thankfully now the other side and able to see things clearly in hindsight - sometimes you just got to go through stuff & learn - the whole experience cracked me open & I’m using that pain to fix whatever it is that made me fall for this person to begin with 🥰
2025-07-04 08:07:26
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Paige Reeds :
This is so me I’m embarrassed he doe this to me
2025-07-06 12:10:31
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Rikki :
and they think it’s cute when they say “he always comes back” “he just won’t leave me alone” 🙄
2025-07-04 04:58:45
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vi0let :
She allows him to sabotage it cause she wants to feel special and wanted. He does not like her 👀
2025-07-06 07:33:37
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SeaOfCyn :
Uh, I’m the exact woman you’re describing 😳 I’ll never be his choice
2025-07-04 02:19:31
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Heather :
Nah imma talk to other guys unless I am married.
2025-07-04 04:32:03
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