@divorcedoulas: There’s a version of you on the other side of this who is so emotionally regulated that your ex could light their own car on fire in your driveway and you’d just be like, “Huh. That’s a choice.” When I say, make your divorce the most boring thing about you, I don’t mean you won’t feel big things. I don’t mean it won’t be hard. I mean that eventually, all the chaos, the drama, the conflict, the endless loops of “can you believe they did this?” — it all goes flatline. You stop reacting. You stop rehearsing arguments in the shower. You stop checking your phone for a response that was never going to regulate you anyway. Your nervous system gets so safe inside itself that your ex becomes background noise. Not a threat. Not a villain. Not a puzzle to solve. Just… a person doing what they always do — while you go build a better life without them. The court dates? Just another appointment on the calendar. The custody exchanges? Smooth, scripted, emotionless. The co-parenting emails? Business casual with a side of copy-paste. That’s not indifference. That’s power. That’s nervous system mastery. That’s self-respect. And when you get there — when you really feel how boring it all is — that’s the moment you know you’re free. ⸻ #DivorceCoach #HighConflictDivorce #NervousSystemRegulation #DivorceRecovery #CoparentingWithAnEx #FamilyCourtSurvivor #EmotionalSobriety #DivorceSupport #DivorceDoulas #MakeYourDivorceBoring #HealingFromDivorce #GrayRock #PostSeparationAbuse #TraumaRecovery #DivorcedNotDestroyed

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