@lovekillslife: why you keep seeking their validation 1. they made you feel seen for a moment . you two were texting every day , sharing audio messages - something about that connection probably hit a soft spot . even if it wasn't romantic , it was consistent , and consistency feels like care . when that disappeared without warning , it felt personal . 2. you’re chasing closure or proof you matter . when someone makes exceptions for others but not for you , it triggers that feeling of , “why not me ? am i not enough ? “ 3. their inconsitency might mean they enjoy the attention , but not enough to be invested in you . they might be emotionally unavaliable . they might be stringing you along without even realizing it . or they just don’t priortize you - and that sucks to accept . you aren’t auditoning for someone else’s attention , let them go .