@hopewithholly: Replying to @Val11 Our relationship problems stem from our attachment styles and our CPTSD. We both came out of trauma. So we have had to learn how to heal our nervous system and learn new relationship skills that were never taught to us. ##relationshipadvice##marriageadvice##datingadvice##traumahealing##cptsd##attachmentstyle##anxiousattachment
You are so brave for posting your couple vulnerabilities. As a former anxious girly I took a few years on my own after divorce to heal myself before getting in a relationship. I think you said earlier he was very newly divorced when he met you. You are a kind and patient partner. He is lucky!
2025-07-16 13:45:57
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The_Artful_Dodger :
Trying is key. That’s all you can do. No matter how you do it. There’s nothing sadder than when the trying stops. That, unfortunately is how relationships work
2025-07-16 23:40:31
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🌸cindy🌸 :
Great response! And bravo for the tenacity to do the work. Some of us were not dealt a full hand with these resources, and unfortunately, it is a lot more work for us. It sucks, but it’s our reality. Thank you for helping us put more tools in our toolbox and learning along with you!
2025-07-17 11:32:27
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Aquaria :
It’s so amazing to find a man who is willing to do the work with you. Live long and prosper!!
2025-07-16 15:36:41
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Teri in AZ :
Finding a partner who’s willing to invest time in learning how to have a beautiful relationship is such a gift. The more guidance we have access to, the better. ❤️
2025-07-17 02:18:29
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Angi :
I think you are the "normal" couple. We all have a past. At our ages we have experienced trauma and pain or we haven't "lived". It takes two to want a good relationship together. It takes work and open honest communication, among other things, forever. Without the proper tools relationships are sure to fail.
2025-07-16 14:22:24
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Lisa jones heady :
Truth
2025-07-16 15:12:45
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Voluptuous🎀Velvet💋💜 :
Honestly, the problem sounds like a him problem .He needs to learn to be able to sit in discomfort and self soothe .I had this issue myself actually because I hated when my now ex wanted space and I just wanted to resolve the issue and it was very hard to regulate when he was trying to pull back. but ultimately, it just sounds like he has a problem with howb you Regulate yourself and he needs to learn how to deal with it and learn to self soothe as well
2025-07-18 18:49:03
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Wardi Donnelly349 :
We learn relationships skills from childhood. We can relearn new relationships skills. It does take work.
2025-07-16 15:10:28
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Neva :
💜💜 absolutely love this!
2025-07-16 13:41:53
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Lisa G Marie :
It’s fantastic, and appreciated! Thank You!! 💗😊
2025-07-16 13:45:17
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j.j1960🇨🇦 :
A man who’s willing to ‘do the work’ is worth his weight in GOLD!!
2025-07-20 23:13:19
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