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PeachPrime :
This is situational at best. You both should iron out flaws in yourselves. That’s part of growing. And if he isn’t doing that then leave. But if it’s just that you have started being annoyed by parts of his personality, like making a joke in any conversation, having hobbies like video games or fishing, not being as neat a person as you, those are not flaws. That’s you thinking his personality would change. And that’s a you problem. Not a him problem.
2025-07-18 20:45:47
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𝕤𝕦𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕖 & 𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕣𝕤 :
I second this. Bonus one: “I don’t deserve you.” It’s just an excuse to continue bad behavior.
2025-07-16 15:37:56
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ellis61wolfellis :
If he wasn’t a problem then he shouldn’t be a problem now .
2025-07-19 12:46:23
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huntaaa143 :
My mom said this about my husband.
2025-07-20 14:23:17
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angel truth :
I got accused of cheating with no proof but me sending a Pic of my makeup look to my friend and then he tried to say I had to choose him and cut off all my male guy friends and I wad like yea no
2025-07-20 01:26:55
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magpie2369 :
I argued with my ex constantly until he said “this is who I am and I’m not changing” I left shortly after.
2025-07-17 20:49:19
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Giggliegoo :
mines not said that, but he does refuse to grow and change and compares my current me to my 20 years ago me, obviously I've changed, youre supposed to! but most of my growth happened in last 5 years.
2025-07-18 15:35:52
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Chris :
Okay, but my wife literally said that to me a few weeks ago when I asked her why, after a decade of me asking her, she still refuses to break down cardboard boxes properly 😂😬
2025-07-16 15:20:58
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christinamarie1818 :
Or our relationship is about growth I’m growing you can too
2025-07-16 18:57:11
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runningMiles :
Yes!! My ex husband said that! This is truth!
2025-07-16 21:57:58
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Jessica :
a man who refuses to grow with you is completely boring. im growing and changing daily with a focus on self improvement and if he isnt on the same growth path we would not be compatible
2025-07-18 22:51:27
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Sarah Ross :
I got lucky mine says u made me a better man 😁
2025-07-16 17:11:03
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🧿 :
You are 💯 right on! Also the one who says “this is who I am and I’m not going to change” - dated a guy for about 6 weeks and over that time I noticed he was a habitual gambler with daily sports betting. He also drank excessively and would drive drunk. He facetimed me while driving drunk and I immediately ended it. Mind you this man is 48 with two ex wives, one teen just starting college and a 22 year old. He also lived with his mom but totally lied and said he was taking care of her given his stepdad’s recent death. The truth, the mom looked amazing, was a youthful 75 year old and was not some weak elderly woman. I found the obituary and the dad passed 2 years prior. So he misrepresented everything was love bombing me as we were literal best friends instantly. When I expressed my displeasure at his drunk driving facetime he texted “this is who I am and I’m not going to change” the next morning I ended it with a zero emotion very short HR type breakup text. I’ve never been so proud of myself for seeing things rather quickly. Pay attention, all the signs are there at the start. (Thanks for reading this far 🤗)
2025-07-17 02:35:34
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D’amee :
He hasn’t said it to me, but he has said it in reference to his ex-wife “she knew what my situation was and who I am” Red Flag 🚩
2025-07-16 21:58:04
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Mamaw Becky :
You don’t find a man with potential. You find a man you like exactly the way he is and don’t try to change him. Yes growth is good but find a man who already grew and won’t need fixed.
2025-07-18 15:52:47
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Angela Marie :
What about the ones that say they don’t need to change and if it’s right it works naturally. That’s what I had for a number of years in a relationship post my divorce. I believe it does take mutual effort I was never able to get him to see this. And I felt I was making all the effort which turned into too much energy!
2025-07-17 15:34:48
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Sheek Posh 💃 :
I am a woman I say it all the time, I am not planning to change for anyone…..
2025-07-16 20:34:50
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destination_nknwn :
“You knew I had a child”
2025-07-16 16:57:55
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Octocutiepie 🇨🇦 🏳️🌈 :
Oh man. I stayed too long.
2025-07-17 03:07:15
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Slaughtermommy :
My husband says this to me all the time
2025-07-17 21:07:37
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stefb31 :
true, my abusive husband has said this for over a decade. young ladies I beg you to take this advice!
2025-07-17 16:18:38
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Veronika :
I have used that phrase towards a man and I can confirm- I had ZERO intention of making myself better for him because I was miserable. I didn’t realize the relationship needed to end because I had no baseline of what a healthy relationship should be. But once that relationship ended and I found myself, everything changed. So, yes, this is 1,000% accurate.
2025-07-16 16:48:01
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Ms. Rad :
My husband says this when I see him doing something weird and ask “why are you the way that you are” while laughing. Example I walk in and he’s pretending to eat the cats paws cause she walked across his computer 😂
2025-07-16 17:23:27
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Blue Dress :
I was told I was stuck in the marriage so he didn’t have to change or put in any effort.
2025-07-16 19:41:52
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brendaeckertartist :
it's just my nature....that's an excuse...you can work on anger, being shy, intolerance, impatient, etc...we all have shortcom8ngs that we have to work on
2025-07-16 15:21:47
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