@dearstephiee: to love free without burdens and insecurity :) #relatable #fyp #foryou #zyxbca

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i don't wanna sit in the table where I don't have anything to offer

maryelll :

It's always the "You have high standards" when in fact I haven't reached my own standard yet. What's a man If I could barely afford myself?

Steph :

omg, didn't expect this one to blow up. also, i realized that this is not a red flag, rather it is being mature for prioritizing stability before getting someone into your life. 💗

Gain eagle :

why is relationship today seen as a transaction? why can't love be pure? 😭

🍓 :

finally i found my people 😭

Bintang_terang :

While it's not my parents fault, but i grown out with limited finance where we have just enough for our needs, i become an adult who dating is not the priority but fulfilling what i wants is more important..it feels like i'm healing my inner child by buying everything i can't afford during my childhood.

jaeminwaify :

That’s right. I can’t fall in love because I feel like I’m not even enough for myself. I want to love freely, without burdens and without my insecurities. Actually, when I say I have standards for a man, I realize those standards are actually meant for me. When I want someone who’s almost perfect, it means I feel like I have to be like him first. I can endure being hurt by others, but I can’t bear the thought of hurting someone else. That’s why I need to love myself first. And only then, I’ll be ready to love someone else.

_monkeyD.luffy56 :

women don't need to financially stable, they need to maintain there purity

Madrugada :

As someone who has the same mindset, I say it's not a red flag but a response to what we have observed and learned from our environment. Let's become the best version of ourselves first, achieve what we truly want before anything else.

dan :

is this count as red flag too?

notsurewhy :

this made me never date anyone or be in a relationship😔

v i n :

well, Donna Sheridan wasn't that financially stable and yet have 3 men falling head over heels for her 😆😆😆

snoopy :

THIS IS SO ME

micasasaa :

full of insecurity and self-doubt… but let's be the best version of ourselves first, achieve everything we want before anything else. And a message to my future partner: wherever you are now let's work hard together, and if the time comes we meet at the right time let's strive for a safe and comfortable future🤍

࣪˖ ִ𐙚 pauline 𝜗𝜚 :

in right time babe!💕

jeje :

@️: i don't wanna sit in the table where I don't have anything to offer

whut :

Heavy on “i dont wanna sit in the table where i dont have anything to offer”

Rima ~ :

I mean I have high standards so I should be a high standard myself

⁺ 𓂋 𓈒 𝓬𝓸𝓸𝓴𝓲𝓮𝔂𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓮 :

betul! realistis aja sebetulnya, dunia ini penuh kesenjangan, aku gamau waktu ngejalanin malah ngerasa ga nyaman, padahal seharusnya hubungan itu jd tempat nyaman untuk dijalani, jadi untuk calon masa depanku, yuk kerja keras, kita usahakan masa depan yang nyaman itu💖

StayGold🧡 :

OMG SAME. People only think that only guy need to be financially stable. But for me, i also need to be stable too 😭

Rachel Qin 🎀 :

That's not a red flag, that's good, but true love won't make us feel like a burden. True love truly loves us for who we are, regardless of circumstances. But it's also important to remember that if we love someone, or someone loves us, we certainly don't want them to suffer. That's why love is beautiful if it is with the right person. 🤍

;ଓ :

Personally, I don’t see it as a red flag. In fact, I admire people who have the self-awareness to know their priorities and recognize when they’re not yet in the right place—emotionally, mentally, or financially—to commit to a serious relationship. That kind of honesty and maturity is something I deeply respect. Love isn’t just about being together; it’s also about knowing when the timing isn’t right and choosing growth first. So to those who choose to pause, reflect, and prioritize what truly matters—hands down, I admire you 🫡❤️

spu!z 💌 :

REAL if i’m not financially stable how will i ever afford going out on dates with my person? i can’t let them be the only one paying every time we go out

️ :

•🝮︎︎︎︎︎︎︎𝕿𝖆𝖒𝖎𝖆🝮︎︎︎︎︎︎︎• :

omg I thought i was alone on this i was literally thinking about this yesterday