Personal experience I was not responsible enough right after high school. I did a few years but also wasn’t focused enough for it to be super worthwhile. It wasn’t until about 25 when I knew what I wanted to do and could buckle down and get it done.
2025-07-17 16:48:30
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Jakob 🎱 :
I took 2 gap years to work and save money and it was the best thing I ever did. I was much more prepared at 19 than 17
2025-07-23 04:10:27
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Guppy puppy :
College isn’t for everyone. And most kids don’t know what they want to do anyway. Patient, at this age they just need guidance. They’ll find their niche
2025-07-24 14:32:29
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janieee 💕 :
Personally going to college right after HS wasn’t the best for me, I dropped out and transferred to two colleges before starting over again at 22 with a different degree and finally had a life plan and couldn’t be happier
2025-07-19 10:52:45
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Tay :
Theyre just babies
2025-07-19 18:44:16
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HighOffEeeeeeee :
Let them take a year off. Figure out what they want to do. Enjoy the time with them home without the hustle and bustle.
2025-07-17 12:47:19
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Ronita :
Going through this now. Let them take a minute to take a breath and think about what they really want to do with their life. Have boundaries but give them a little time to figure things out.
2025-07-18 02:08:34
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Lawsyn :
coming from someone who struggles with school. taking college at my own pace was my saving grace. everyone is different and their paths are too. be clear on what they need to do like working, cleaning, etc and let them decide what works best for them
2025-07-18 03:35:25
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Amy Nielsen :
Unless they know what threat to do and need a degree to do it…let them figure it out. ❤️
2025-07-17 19:23:37
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Kristy Burke :
I never should have set foot on a college campus at 18. I had NO CLUE what I wanted to do with my life. I wasted so much time and money and it cost me ten fold when I went back at age 30
2025-07-18 16:15:31
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🌿KAIT🌿 birth & motherhood :
Taking a pause is always better than racking up loan debt and then dropping out or failing classes. I watched multiple friends go through that and I'm SO glad I took a breather instead of jumping in when I wasn't ready
2025-07-17 19:58:18
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BrendaUnfolded :
Breathe. Let him. And don’t forget to breathe.
2025-07-17 14:53:21
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claireposthumus :
I wasn’t mentally ready for college after high school.
2025-07-17 20:03:45
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Julia :
Went for two semesters, third became too much because of bad choices I had made. Now Im back at 27, the majority of my grades were B or higher so I only need four classes for nursing school! Younger me wasn’t able to get it done but older me knows what to do and not to do! If Its not your time, don’t try and make it be!
2025-07-18 20:45:07
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3mm700 :
im not a parent and its complicated as to why this is my business but my younger brother who i thought would never go to college did this but ended up going the next year. that year gave him the time to figure himself and his mental health out before spending that kind of money. it worked out for him
2025-07-18 20:30:22
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Crazy Mae :
My mom forced me to do college immediately after high school. I stopped attending in middle of both semesters and was stuck with a full year of payments to make it’s been ten years and I still really wish I hadn’t been forced to go cuz I think I could refocus now with some help but it left such a bad taste
2025-07-17 20:42:50
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maya :
Keep in mind, if they're not wanting to go, they're not ready. College requires a lot of time and dedication, if it's not something you want to do, you will fail.
2025-07-18 05:00:36
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user1519119829450 :
I wish I had waited and lived life more. You don’t even know yourself at that point. Also - So much debt. Im not sure of your financial arrangement but schools aren’t going anywhere. I wouldn’t push him into debt or waste your money if there is hesitation.
2025-07-18 04:22:20
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Two_N_Jenn 💙 :
It’ll be okay. My kid dropped out of college after the first year. Waits tables now at age 22. But she’s happy and living on her own. She was going to NYU for molecular biochemistry, smart kid, but chose a different path.
2025-07-17 19:56:38
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Silver_reverie :
I didn’t adjust well to college the first year. I went because I wasn’t given an option to not go by my parents. I had undiagnosed adhd and had no idea how to study or stay on a schedule. I wish I had stayed at home and worked, maybe moved to an apartment later. And then went to school when I was surer on my feet. Instead I bombed.
2025-07-17 22:03:25
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daisy 🌼 :
I was only 17 when I started college, I had no idea what I wanted to do and wasted 3 semesters of $$$ barely showing up to class. I just needed some time to figure it out. went on to later get my BA with honors but it was a rough start. I just needed a break. but it was either go to college or move out
2025-07-18 02:52:31
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maniacthetopmodel :
Breathe and remember that your child is no longer a child, but an adult. They are building THEIR life. Whether or not they go to college is their choice. Be vocal about concerns/questions, but do not disrespect them. That just creates an needless divide.
2025-07-17 19:53:24
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Dbk :
Tell them welcome to adulting! Get a full time job and pay your own bills.
2025-07-24 14:39:19
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user7453228504827 :
I begged my parents for a year off. I even mapped out EXACTLY what I would do in that year. it included working full time, job shadow, PAYING THEM RENT, etc. I mean everything. I was told no. I went to college and spiralled. Absolutely put myself back 5 years. I was miserable. No, it wasn't their fault. I made choices, but we've talked a lot about it since. they both said they were scared and wished they would have listened to what I needed. I was a planner, responsible, hard working, and happy kid beforehand.
2025-07-17 18:06:47
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Blaster Nine :
Don't ask us. Ask them. College will be in the top three financial expenditures of their lives and it is also right as they become adults. They need to be ready. Otherwise the financial ramifications of things going wrong can be crippling for life. If not ready, work temp jobs, apprentice, community college, non-profit/public technical school, etc. Real world experience, income, minimal debt.
2025-07-17 19:09:04
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