I took 2 gap years to work and save money and it was the best thing I ever did. I was much more prepared at 19 than 17
2025-07-23 04:10:27
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HighOffEeeeeeee :
Let them take a year off. Figure out what they want to do. Enjoy the time with them home without the hustle and bustle.
2025-07-17 12:47:19
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janieee 💕 :
Personally going to college right after HS wasn’t the best for me, I dropped out and transferred to two colleges before starting over again at 22 with a different degree and finally had a life plan and couldn’t be happier
2025-07-19 10:52:45
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Cybertrash Ash :
Personal experience I was not responsible enough right after high school. I did a few years but also wasn’t focused enough for it to be super worthwhile. It wasn’t until about 25 when I knew what I wanted to do and could buckle down and get it done.
2025-07-17 16:48:30
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Tay :
Theyre just babies
2025-07-19 18:44:16
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Bald Guy Supreme :
Ours was going to go but FAFSA and T-bag dropping the loan capped stopped that. Now he’s unemployed with no education prospects. Go “Merica 🤷♂️
2025-07-17 20:28:24
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heyitsamanDuhh :
Jumping into college straight out of HS is not the way to go
2025-07-17 12:54:23
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Adriaki :
My mom didn’t give me an option. I tried to force a gap year and when she found out She made me go to trade school, I went to cosmetology school and now I do hair in Beverly Hills, I’ve had multiple covers of magazines and even been on tv. Make them do something, Hope this helps.
2025-07-17 18:47:43
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BrendaUnfolded :
Breathe. Let him. And don’t forget to breathe.
2025-07-17 14:53:21
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Olybrighteyes :
Kiss your deposits goodbye?
2025-07-17 21:23:36
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user7453228504827 :
I begged my parents for a year off. I even mapped out EXACTLY what I would do in that year. it included working full time, job shadow, PAYING THEM RENT, etc. I mean everything. I was told no. I went to college and spiralled. Absolutely put myself back 5 years. I was miserable. No, it wasn't their fault. I made choices, but we've talked a lot about it since. they both said they were scared and wished they would have listened to what I needed. I was a planner, responsible, hard working, and happy kid beforehand.
2025-07-17 18:06:47
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Loco_Liv :
Don’t make them go. I’m not a parent with a college student but I do have a son, and my dad forced me to go to school. I hated it. I dropped out and didn’t tell him. It’s just not for everyone.
2025-07-17 13:40:51
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TwoDogsintheBoro :
I’d make sure expectations were clear. He could sign up for a tech school or he could get a full time job. If a job then he’d have four months to start saving for his own apartment and looking for roommates. But at the four month mark he’d be out. It’s really that simple.
2025-07-18 01:05:00
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KRae :
My French husband and I are absolutely encouraging a gap year. It’s the norm where he is from.
2025-07-23 16:37:40
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coxyyyyy :
Forcing them to go to college doesn’t mean they’ll actually go to class. It’ll just turn into one big expensive waste of time.
2025-07-17 21:11:44
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Henna 🫧 :
I wasn’t ready for college whatsoeverrr at 18. My grades were terrible and priorities were not straight. I just graduated at 24 (2 years behind) with highest honors and genuinely enjoyed it! The difference 2 years made was insane!
2025-07-17 17:50:26
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Blaster Nine :
Don't ask us. Ask them. College will be in the top three financial expenditures of their lives and it is also right as they become adults. They need to be ready. Otherwise the financial ramifications of things going wrong can be crippling for life. If not ready, work temp jobs, apprentice, community college, non-profit/public technical school, etc. Real world experience, income, minimal debt.
2025-07-17 19:09:04
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Inna :
As a parent I would struggle with this.. we just didn’t give our kids a choice.. from age 14 we have drilled it into them that it’s either college or trade school.. no gap year, no year to explore yourself and all that.. I commend you with being as supportive as you can be but I know you feel like screaming on the inside.. kids are tough.. all we can do is guide them and explain why certain things are necessary (trade school, college or military) to build the life they dream of.
2025-07-17 23:23:53
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riverofpoetry :
Not the perspective you’re asking for, but I really struggled before college (primarily due to pressure from my parents) and I would’ve benefited from taking a year + I wanted to take one, but knew they’d never allow it. I actually did horribly my first year and it was basically a waste of time & money. You should feel proud that your kid can not only recognize what they need but also feels like they can ask you for it.
2025-07-17 23:54:52
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ceebo__ :
I didn’t and I should have bc instead I dropped out w panic attacks. Good on you for raising a kid who knows what they need. Set boundaries and expectations but allow them to start to govern their lives (but give them perspective when needed!)
2025-07-17 12:52:05
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Mlewy45! :
Better than rushing to go and wasting $ .
2025-07-17 17:43:31
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Ivet 🌵 :
It’s not that serious as long as he doesn’t plan on just staying at home doing nothing.
2025-07-17 16:37:31
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Crabbiness 223 :
Seriously though, your child is an adult. It's their life to choose what they want even if you don't like it or understand it. You are better off asking your child went they chose what they did, not random strangers.
2025-07-17 19:29:13
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🤨 :
College is always going to be there. If he really wants to go, he will when he wants to. If he has scholarships I could understand being confused or even mad but overall who cares. They get one life, let em live it.
2025-07-17 20:55:01
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dawnburke15 :
If they don’t want to go to college why waste the money however they would be working full-time and paying rent just to show them what their money can buy if they don’t get an education
2025-07-17 20:53:20
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