Jola Jovani
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MikeG :
My pet peeve! Then I have to argue about the motive you made up rather than address the issue.
2025-07-21 13:53:14
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Rycon Payne :
"Why does it upset you when I assume I know what you're intensions are, and assume the worst of you?"
2025-07-21 19:36:28
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Jamaree Love :
I don’t know when ppl started feeling like they could tell you what your motives are but I genuinely wish it would stop.
2025-07-28 12:49:43
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Chris H :
This is akin to “you cheated on me in my dreams” and then needing an apology.
2025-07-22 13:32:58
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aplaym :
This is so real. Happens so much in my relationship.
2025-07-20 23:02:58
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Caitlin Clark :
benefit of the doubt is earned and it sounds like it's possible what he thinks he is non-verbally communicating isn't in line with what he thinks he is. ppl can still cause harm with zero bad intentions
2025-07-23 13:52:18
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Matthew jackson :
why is it always the absolute worst intentions whenever an action is ever taken for any reason no matter how well he treats you and how much he proves they loves you and how you know he would never do those negative intentions but that is always the default
2025-07-22 16:14:03
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Giyuo :
its actually helpful to hear the motive from their point of view if they realize it's a projection. that way you both can fight against the projection instead of one another.
2025-07-29 08:57:30
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Crumb :
Intentions can be importantly in conversations but overall impacts of actions will speak volumes
2025-07-24 18:23:35
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Paul Fly :
“We judge others by their actions but ourselves by our intentions” the fundamental attribution error
2025-07-21 12:50:08
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mitchskinner742 :
"In many people's stories, they're the victim and their partner is the villain. But if you can't see yourself in a negative light and still have good mental health, then you expect your partner to see themselves in a negative light—with their mental health deteriorating—in order to help you."
2025-07-21 12:29:19
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jayedmac94 :
Wifey and I have a baseline of good intentions because we know each other has good intentions. That helps us get better at the execution of things because we know the other sees us as a good person who can make mistakes.
2025-07-23 21:47:03
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andy did it :
impact over intent.
2025-07-21 12:17:59
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L :
I always find it weird when people say they know my motivations. So few people take the time to even know me
2025-07-22 17:11:59
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Random_broom_handle :
However this can easily be weaponized. Because impact matters more than intent. And intent is an internal state. Actions are an external process.
2025-07-21 02:27:43
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GWTibbs :
You can't know people's motives
2025-07-21 20:09:34
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Neight King :
You mean they understand when not wanting to be told feelings but not wanting to be told what the motive for actions is? Isn’t that feelings?
2025-07-22 16:10:54
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Nicholas smith :
I think a better term is you're assigning motive to the actions
2025-07-22 11:30:41
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stin :
why are you telling him his own motives lol
2025-07-22 23:19:46
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Alicia 🌙 :
hmmm ok but why *did* he stay at work when he knew you were sick though? like i see the point you’re reaching for but idk if this is the example you’re after.
2025-07-23 21:32:48
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Cederick Johnson :
as a partner I learned along time ago never assume they are intending to hurt you when they speak to you about issues. its hard but it helps
2025-07-23 12:13:35
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Alks :
intentions do not equal outcomes...
2025-07-23 01:48:00
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Yamen Hill :
This is very healthy. The comments have not passed the vibe check
2025-07-23 05:01:12
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Gulliber :
But you did care more about work than her in that moment. Are they assuming if you admit to having certain values once it means you have to always have them?
2025-07-21 16:42:42
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PeachPrime :
You should never assign motives to someone’s actions. The motives never matter. Only the actions do. Once you assign motives you are the toxic one
2025-07-23 02:16:59
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