the_leafhopper
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seastar.ry :
OH THIS IS AMAZING. i love this. the nuance 🤌🏻 i have so many thoughts on this and also i feel so happy to have gotten 2 kisses in 1 video ❤️❤️❤️
2025-07-24 17:43:04
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Megs_Quiltery :
Your experience of friends using clinical or diagnostic verbiage and people who don’t like you using personality language is really interesting and insightful…. Correct me if I’m wrong… but it sounds like friends are using that language to rationalize to themselves for your “irritating” trait- where, people who dislike you are using the personality language as a dig with the intention of it hurting more… maybe?
2025-07-23 23:29:28
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*moon* :
everytime i see a video of yours and it has the accent disclaimer it makes me feel so seen coz i have a very similar accent to yours 💪✨
2025-07-27 08:56:20
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FiddleFig1918 :
What sweater pattern are you knitting?
2025-07-24 17:06:56
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noseinabook62 :
I agree with all of your points, and I would like to add that there are some people who have personalities that do look just like a diagnosable mental illness. But they aren’t. Like. People can have traits that look like symptoms, but aren’t actually indicative of anything
2025-07-24 16:51:02
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soulsynapse :
I get these kinds of comments once in a while, but a lot less than I used to. Being undeniably, extremely transparently capable as a person is going to intimidate people. Diagnoses or whatever I have always attributed to people being unable to admit they're intimidated, even to themselves. However, now, I sidestep this a different way: I (broadly) give help freely to people.. if it isn't going to take a lot of my time, I actively advertise that I have capability to spare. And I do it enough that people are understanding when I refuse them - they know that I have enough requests to collaborate that I can be a bit choosy, so they wave it off mentally. In reality, I only refuse things that take too much time, but I don't go out of my way to correct that misconception unless people ask. Here's the kicker though: even if they have the kinds of thoughts you're sharing in the video.. most people realize that they don't know when they'll need my help, and they've seen from everyone else that my help is an extremely valuable thing to have access to - so even if they have those thoughts, they keep it to themselves. I've helped around 80% of the people in my program in a capacity where they would have struggled with it quite a bit if they were doing it alone. Sometimes the true colors come out anyway but it is *way* more manageable when the only time I have to deal with it is when people think there won't be any repurcussions, as opposed to not caring about any potential repurcussions in the moment. It also has the nice benefit of being able to pull people up, given that I can recognize that I've been very lucky to have had experiences that resulted in the capability that I enjoy now.
2025-07-23 11:55:20
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Allison :
Had a friend tell me science is my special interest in an autism way and then I had to explain that no, I literally spent 4 years of my life surrounded by molecular biology and nothing else
2025-07-23 16:33:57
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DrChyGunn | 🧶🍃🍉🌈📚♿️ :
I am autistic/OCD/CPTSD and we have VERY similar personality traits from what you’ve said here (and from watching you) and this is spot on for my experience too.
2025-07-22 21:15:17
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Macabre_ish :
This is so real. Also I could listen to you talk all day 🤓
2025-07-23 16:40:08
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DorothyGalePhD :
I’m also really comfortable with not everyone liking me. I blocked that creator a long time ago because she is so pro-corporate and assimilationist. I think her advice would probably be mask harder if people don’t like you because it’s your job to be likable at work.
2025-07-22 23:35:59
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Meg | Octopus Biologist :
Real. Real. Real. I def tackle with parts of myself that are unlikable constantly. It’s partly how I’ve come to step away form my perfectionism
2025-07-22 23:21:52
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allycat :
off topic but are people rude about your accent? I've been wondering about it but only because I like it!
2025-07-22 21:38:03
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Libby Morehouse :
As someone who is undiagnosed but likely ADHD and maybe autistic, I recognize that’s part of my experience. But also I’m weird and can be annoying and I fully embrace being a theatre kid
2025-07-23 16:14:52
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grace mccarrick :
I love this idea of personality language vs diagnosis language
2025-07-23 00:39:14
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Kelsey | 🇮🇪🧶☀️ :
I always have to remind myself that I don't like many people, or at least, parts of them; so, it's completely acceptable for them to not like me, and/or parts of me lol
2025-07-22 22:02:10
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cutest lil desert rat🌵 :
This really resonates with me. I really feel like you’ve hit on something here. I also have ADHD and C-PTSD and I’m at times intense and annoying and I know that.
2025-07-22 21:22:20
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Masterojack :
Yuppppp. I'm the same way.
2025-07-22 21:28:07
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soulsynapse :
The autism thing is so real. My mom used to leave books around the house for me to find with banger titles like "living with autism" even though every psych I've seen immediately waved it off.
2025-07-23 12:17:05
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Eimear "Rhymes With Dreamer" :
this is so interesting to me. my ADHD was missed in childhood even though everyone complained about very obvious ADHD symptoms, but they described them as negative personality traits, suggesting I didn't care enough or try hard enough. I never realised the difference between personality language and diagnosis language and now I will be thinking about this all day😂
2025-07-23 08:06:08
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Ezra 🧶 :
I just really hate when people call distinctions disabilities. ADHD isn’t a disability. It doesn’t block your ability, it disrupts your functioning. BIG difference.
2025-07-24 05:26:55
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