@vanessaandxander: Want to feel more connected before things get spicy? Try the G.E.T. intimacy technique. It’s simple, powerful, and doesn’t require a single candle or playlist. And it’s backed by actual research! 👀 ✨ G – Gratitude Did you know that gratitude was found to be the #1 predictor of marital satisfaction? What we love about gratitude is that it’s easy, fast, free, it feels good to both give and receive, and it’s a super simple request you can make of your partner. One of the greatest tragedies of being in a relationship is choosing to spend your life with another person, but winding up feeling invisible to them. So practice seeing each other. Appreciating each other. Even when times are tough. It can really be as simple as, “I saw that you took the trash out. Thank you.” Or “Have I told you lately how much I love that ridiculous dance you do to cheer me up when I’m in a bad mood?” ✨ E – Eye Contact Eye contact is one of the simplest ways to feel deeply seen and understood by your partner, and yet, it’s something so many of us overlook or even avoid because it can feel vulnerable or intense. But that vulnerability is exactly what makes it so impactful! Start small by simply looking up and acknowledging your partner when they enter a room, or when you’re saying hello or goodbye. ✨ T – Touch Every day, exchange a 30 second hug, and a six second kiss. Research has shown that these are the exact amount of time it takes for the body to start producing Oxytocin, the “love hormone.” Oxytocin promotes a sense of trust and bonding. You’ll actually be able to feel the exact moment that it gets released. It feels like your entire body letting out one big “Ahhhh.” Try it this week and let us know what shifts. 💫

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