@alyssaaazander: 6 years ago we broke up after spending 4 years together. Over the 7 months a part, these are 8 things I wish someone had told me when I was spiraling through the heartbreak... 1️⃣ Stop tracking their stories. Start writing yours. 2️⃣ Closure isn’t something they give you-it’s something you choose. 3️⃣ They’re not coming back the way you want them to. And if they do, make sure that you’ll be different. 4️⃣ You don’t miss them. You miss who you got to be when you felt loved... and that’s still accessible from you (and learning how to do this will make any future relationship the best you ever had) 5️⃣ The pain you’re in isn’t punishment-it’s a portal. 😮‍💨 this hits every time. 6️⃣ Obsessing over “what if” is just your nervous system trying to find safety. 7️⃣ Healing doesn’t mean you won’t grieve. It means you won’t abandon yourself in the process. 8️⃣ Focusing on them is a distraction... focusing on you and your growth is the medicine. This is the moment to turn your attention inward. Not on whether your ex is texting back, but on how you show up for you. This is the season that will shape every relationship that comes next, and shaped me so when we decided to try again— after 7 months apart— we had a more solid foundation 💕 ✨If you’re ready to understand how codependency might be playing a role in your patterns and you want to start healing at the root just type “GUIDE” in the comments and I’ll send you my free shadow work and inner child guide.✨ #fyp #viralvideo #relatable #Relationship #breakup #healing #anxiety #anxiousattachment

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Saturday 26 July 2025 03:43:58 GMT