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petite.lapin :
There have been a few studies on this. It has to do with an incongruency between the individual and norm conformity. The violation of norm conformity w/ attractiveness means they are read as danger on a cognitive level. I’ll try to find the studies for you
2025-07-28 07:07:50
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Parkington :
My jaw dropped when I read this post. I had no idea so many others were experiencing this bizarre phenomenon. The most validating thing I’ve read in a very long time.
2025-07-28 13:19:22
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nina harru :
That’s crazy you just pinpointed my whole life????
2025-07-29 06:24:27
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aster :
i get manic pixie dream girl'd verryyy often and i didn't realize it until i looked into what a MPDG actually is. does anyone else?? have this experience?? i think about it a lot
2025-07-28 17:29:15
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djdjdjshd :
people become obsessed with me and want to know everything about me then they start acting like my interests and style are theirs then they start hating me and finding reasons to prove im a bad person. it’s wild
2025-07-28 07:52:56
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positive mindset :
they want to humble us for some reason is what I noticed
2025-07-28 12:28:53
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𝒴. 𝐸𝓋𝑒𝓉𝓉𝑒 ⚜️ :
Everyone loves the idea of you, the pretty, quirky girl, until they realize it’s not an act. That once you see through their facade, you can’t and won’t play along in the simulation like the other players. You can’t be manipulated. You do not respect titles and everyone you meet is on the same playing field. While they manipulate to get ahead, you are busy being your genuine self. They don’t realize the few people you do have in your life, have decided to stay, see, and accept all of you.
2025-07-29 06:36:55
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user5845255500191 :
1. Expectation Violation Theory (EVT) Core Idea: When someone violates expectations (even subtle, unconscious ones), it triggers increased scrutiny, discomfort, or even aggression from others. Application: A woman who is attractive is often unconsciously expected to also be socially polished, neurotypical, emotionally expressive in “normal” ways, and fluent in conventional feminine codes. If she instead behaves in ways others read as “awkward,” “blunt,” “too intense,” or “aloof,” people may perceive this as threatening or unsettling — even if she’s not doing anything wrong. 📘 Source: Burgoon, J.K. (1993). Interpersonal expectations, expectancy violations, and emotional communication.
2025-07-28 23:39:29
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hana :
because I'm not interested in being them, I'm happy being myself! and that really bothers them 💀
2025-07-29 06:26:40
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bluedragonT7 :
I’m 51, and this has been my overarching life experience-down to even family bullying and ostracizing me. It’s the uncanny valley effect for all of us on the spectrum. If you are an attractive woman, you must understand that neurotypicals assign a great deal of social power to that, which makes you an even bigger “threat” to be subdued.
2025-07-28 12:31:50
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M :
I have a theory they’re all secretly in love with us
2025-07-28 14:47:26
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Meesh Elle :
You are a mirror to them. For some reason we bring out their bad sides and force them to see it.
2025-07-28 11:49:04
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morganmsb :
It’s like a mini Salem witch trial
2025-07-28 11:03:32
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Coralbouquetgallery :
This is a thing and it took me decades to realize it. I’ve had multiple women really obsessed with “proving” to others that I’m not really kind or empathetic….that it’s all pretend to seem like a good person. It is always so strange because if I had the energy to pretend to be anything, it wouldn’t be this. 😂 I’m nothing special. Which makes me wonder….if who I am makes them feel so bad about themselves, how awful are they behind closed doors? Is the bar really so low for humanity, that just treating others with common decency is seen as “fake”?
2025-07-28 17:31:34
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Anita :
They hate we dont follow the social hierarchy. Like they HATE it and want to make us follow in line and when we dont it triggers something dark in them.
2025-07-28 09:10:11
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MyBetseyNoozler :
I don't know, but I made it my superpower. The meaner they are the higher I rise.
2025-07-28 10:56:45
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night elf🌙✨ :
the comments are validating but it's also genuinely sad
2025-07-28 17:08:58
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Milona316 :
They are threatened by your authenticity while being intrigued at the same time
2025-07-28 10:07:44
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Charlie :
in my experience it has usually been because at some point they tried to provoke a reaction from me and it went completely over my head so they just try harder and harder
2025-07-28 14:42:36
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Madysen Rosenberg :
livvvvving in the comments section looking for answers. These middle aged mean girls are exhausting
2025-07-28 15:22:24
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quinnelstudio :
Because beauty in INFLUENTIAL. And autistic people do not adhere to social structures that give structure and therefore “safety” to most ppl. If someone is beautiful but influences people to adhere to norms that give others safety (marrying young, having kids, being a submissive servant) it’s okay… but autistic women don’t do this. We can’t. We end up calling attention to ourselves bc we are bright and our lives have to be lived in joy and genuine expression.
2025-07-28 12:39:43
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username543210 :
for me it’s my communication style :/ i’m direct and i mean what i say, and that often angers and confuses them. and then the prettiness just makes them even more angry lmaoooo
2025-07-28 07:29:17
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PontNiva :
This woman who texted me about her problems and deepest darkest secrets for two years told me we weren’t close friends bc it wasn’t “frequent enough”. I’m convinced NTs think codependency is normal.
2025-07-28 06:39:30
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ROSY HOLIDAY :
i’ve been copied, then criticized. when i call it out, im now crazy.
2025-07-28 13:28:20
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nick 🐀 :
I think it’s bc we can’t see/ignore the social hierarchy
2025-07-28 08:35:03
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