Veronica Toumanova 🇲🇫 🇪🇺
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Carolee :
I wish I had been child free.
2025-07-29 03:05:24
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Shannon H Weisman :
Well said
2025-07-29 02:20:36
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georgejoe1989 :
Thank you. I can never explain my choice so eloquently
2025-07-28 13:11:36
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Kaj :
We often become the counselors. As you say we've had more time to develop and understand many aspects of being human and creativity.
2025-07-28 19:16:35
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Drago Nox :
Theres also a great deal of physiological change as the brain rewires itself during pregnancy.
2025-08-01 09:03:31
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Grandma Kathy 2021 💙💛 :
I think women who recognize they don’t want children and choose to be child free are brave and honest and responsible!
2025-07-28 18:57:06
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Sleepymama 🏴 :
Very interesting, thanks 🙂
2025-07-30 12:32:08
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LR :
💗 this take and appreciate your intelligence
2025-07-29 05:27:55
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lascar :
Thank you for answering this very intimate question I been too shy to ask anyboady.
2025-07-28 12:21:51
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BethKOlmo :
If I had realized and understood this sooner, I could have saved myself and my husband from 7 years of an adoption we should have never done. Not a single “good” day with them for 7 years. My husband went along with it for me, and I did it because I “needed” to be a mother. In reality, I felt lesser than most other women, especially his first wife, who had 4 children with no difficulty. I didn’t need to adopt; I needed years of therapy. And now I get to restart therapy with additional trauma to heal from. 😣
2025-07-28 20:24:28
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cinque_terre :
I am a teacher and I have mothered thousands. Thank you for speaking up for the child free by choice!
2025-07-28 21:57:55
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Book Friend Pola 🇵🇱🧩🪩🦄 :
So what most ppl forget is that many mothers were child-free to some point. That we changed in time doesn't erase our past and who we were back then. I had many conversations with my friends about this decision and there was a time when I too didn't see myself in this role. So we do have an outlook on both worlds, from both sides so to speak. And it's difficult to talk to child-free ppl about this experience bc you're always talking with someone who just doesn't know. They just have to believe you or, more likely, they won't. There is this huge shift, not only of identity but primarily a huge brain development. It's like this boost, suddenly you mature so much. It feels like you're no longer a child, even though you didn't feel like a child before. But you also see the system from the other side, and it's depressing but also extends your empathy so much. Becoming a parent takes a lot and gives a lot. So we do envy time and freedom from before having kids, but not the mindset. I know, it sounds terrible, but that's the raw truth of it. Even this feeling of being judged or having to explain yourself to ppl is like a song from the past. Bc believe me when I say it, no one has to explain themselves more than parents. First, questions about another child, and another, they never end. So even though it doesn't feel this way now, you're at the stage when you experience the least social pestering. Those occasions when you have to handle someone nosy are nothing, compared to strangers stopping you on the street almost weekly, just to give their opinion on how you dress your child, or what they eat, or how they behave. So by my experience more you give in pressure only grows, but we're kind of better equipped now to handle it. I literally don't have any f*cks left to give. And I don't believe I could have reached this stage on my own. I would want to tell all women that giving any man a child is the biggest gift and sacrifice a woman can give, and unless his an angel, he's not worth it. And we really should move on from measuring women's worth by the services they can provide. Mothers or not, we are worth more than what we can give to other ppl.
2025-07-28 14:36:26
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Ally and stuff :
women that choose not to have children have an extremely high level of maturity and intelligence. I think it shows a very intimate and deep understanding for yourself to make a choice that society still often criticises. your ability to focus your time to further developing yourself is actually a very valuable part of pushing our social fabric forward. child free women are absolutely 💯 just as valuable and needed in this world as any woman the chose to have children. 💓
2025-07-29 13:46:31
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Alja 🌍🏳️🌈🇪🇺💚 :
Beautifully explained ❤️
2025-07-28 13:02:38
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Sarah Wally :
You explained it beautifully
2025-07-30 18:08:25
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TREE :
💯💯💯💯 All my life until menopause people have told me I would change my mind and have kids. There is also the issue of not being able to afford kids!
2025-07-29 00:53:10
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StephieP :
Thank you! What you have shared helped me to see how I still had more to understand. I appreciate you.
2025-07-28 21:24:38
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Ian🇨🇦 :
#muchlove
2025-07-29 00:13:43
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Malcontentious :
Important stuff 🥰
2025-07-28 12:59:26
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codexnexus :
Yes, that’s right, a win for the society, not a loss. But there is another big thing that is missing with that choice. You see, it’s so rare to find and experience unconditional, deep, pure love that we get from our children (and give back, ofc) - especially for the post soviet people with strict, cold, somewhat detached parents…heavily institutionalized childhood…that is something you don’t know you’ve missed all your life - until you have it. Price is high to pay but it’s worth it. Unconditional Love at it’s finest…parther, pets - it’s all just a dimmed reflection of that feeling/deep connection/bond we have with our children. 🩵
2025-07-28 23:34:32
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delta_dawn_19 :
Beautifully said 💜💜
2025-07-28 22:18:46
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Author_clejo :
Women and girls are already a full and complete person in and of themselves. Their role is to be themselves and if they are childless, they simply continue to be themselves. It’s not ‘the job’ versus ‘the mom.’ I understand what you mean but I don’t think that comparison is accurate. Taking on more ‘roles or jobs’, does make life more complicated. Especially if these roles all consume work, time and energy. Naturally, this affects the time women can spend on maintaining her own true self.
2025-07-28 17:04:45
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one2manyAtoms :
This topic is still taboo in 2025. Very often it is women who are shaming other women.
2025-07-28 12:20:43
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syren415 :
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2025-07-29 06:22:27
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kitty biscuits 🆘️🇺🇸🏳️⚧️ :
I would tell them it's not the world that needs more people. It's the patriarchy that needs more people. It's capitalism that needs more people. The world could use fewer people.
2025-07-28 13:56:37
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