@bayavoce: The moment you stop trying to fix your partner is the moment your relationship actually starts working. Here's what actually shifts everything: learning to see your partner's resistance as information, not defiance. The couples who last aren't the ones who never trigger each other. They're the ones who got curious about what lives underneath the trigger instead of trying to eliminate it. They learned that your partner's ""flaws"" are usually their survival strategies. Your nervous system wants safety, but your soul wants growth. The magic happens when you can hold both without making your partner responsible for either. #relationships #Love #growth
The key to staying in stage 1, or prolonging it, is to switch partners on a regular basis. Hope this helps ✌️
2025-07-30 00:54:24
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Grace :
Yet people have children in stage 1.
2025-07-29 14:44:13
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Gess :
Ok where is your book?
2025-07-31 07:51:44
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Ally1 :
Stage 2 and it's draining honestly.
2025-07-29 08:21:50
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lawalcancrackyou :
How long is stage two? I wanna skip the cinematic
2025-07-29 10:09:45
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purplerebelroots :
Stage three is my favorite so far. I’ve never made it here in any other relationship. We do sleep in separate rooms now though. Which is great for getting a full nights sleep.
2025-07-29 01:52:39
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Katie Jerinic :
How long does it take to get out of stage 2?
2025-07-30 20:17:51
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biandstressed :
I think something important to note is that these stages are not linear either. You can be working on stage 3 and sometimes slip back to stage 2. You can be on stage 1 throughout your relationship at different times. Progress isn’t a straight line and that’s the true effort of long term relationships.
2025-07-29 21:41:20
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L-Zee :
happy to say , 8 years and still at stage 1 🙂
2025-07-29 19:27:32
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Bradley Kreisher :
my partner and I have been struggling in stage 2 for months now and are about at our breaking point. we are trying one last thing to truly understand each without causing so much discourse
2025-07-30 12:12:58
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Stephanie Stern :
Can we talk more about getting out of stage 2?
2025-07-29 06:23:29
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. :
hearing this is feel like im doing really well in my relationship tbh we talk a lot ig about what we both need in our relationship and it normally just works out i dont feel like we are pushing against eachother more like we are working as a team to make eachother happy
2025-07-30 15:37:05
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NoLimitsForGods,yesforMortals :
can cuddles exist through all 3 stages?
2025-07-31 00:03:41
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Markus Bones :
Any tips on identifying when it is a "phase" vs being actually incompatible? I feel like some ppl would stay in relationships that dont work, hoping that one day they'll "get through" this time
2025-07-29 19:30:27
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Mindset Maverick 🇺🇸 :
Married 44 years. Never once disconnected. Spent 24/7 everyday. Dare i say still infatuated. An epic journey of risk and laughing.
2025-07-29 11:23:49
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Artie 🇪🇺 :
For all those struggling in stage 2: I’m so sorry and I hope it gets better. What I’ve found is that framing my feelings as independent from his actions help. For example: stage 2: stop playing video games, it makes me feel unwanted. Stage 3: when you play video games, I feel unwanted. Could you help me deal with that feeling? Maybe we could do something after you’re done playing that focuses on me or play some games together for a bit?
2025-07-29 11:50:10
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Eliás :
Of all days I didn’t know I needed this today.
2025-07-30 17:17:19
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Nigel Knutzen :
According to this I’ve been stuck in stage 1 for seven years. Your stage two sounds wildly unhealthy and they probably shouldn’t be together.
2025-07-31 01:26:34
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Claytøn :
Stuck on stage two with a Dismissive Avoidant. Despite what all the DA videos in tik tok say, she’s not evil. She’s not nearly as bad as some of these videos and comments make her sound. She’s trying! She’s going to therapy! I’m stuck though because there have been small instances that felt like betrayal. (She hasn’t cheated). I know relationships require radical forgiveness, but how do I continue to trust when I’m afraid of feeling betrayed again? (The betrayal seems to be me and her having different perspectives on a few things, and I need some repair to feel safe)
2025-07-29 02:33:33
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DestinyAndra :
Stage 2 is where you find out if its love or not
2025-07-29 08:17:54
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❤️Haylie❤️ :
Stage 2 rn, I’m struggling so hard
2025-07-30 19:01:22
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🫴✨INAMO✨ :
Im afraid I can't get pass stage 2
2025-07-31 02:59:26
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Kat :
I’m in stage three and we’ve been together for eight months. It’s crazy what happens when you actually put in the relationship Work
2025-07-29 07:28:12
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Naomi👽 :
Everytime im with my bf we are so strong. We have the best time but as soon as i go home, it just doesn’t feel right. Idk if thats just a me problem tho
2025-07-30 22:54:50
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