@whitneylynallen: For a while after the medical event that caused my husband’s death, life became performative. I felt so that I was either “putting it on,” or numb from the trauma that I was floating through life, simply going about the motions without feeling embodied in moving through the world with purpose. I would carry on a polite conversation, put on a smile, and nod my head to the many platitudes I would hear. All the while, I was screaming and jumping out of my skin on the inside. Social norms and expectations impose restrictions on “the right way” to act in public even in agonizing grief. But many times, we become afraid of letting ourselves truly unravel, even when we can. We stifle and push all of the emotions and energy down that are intended to be liberated from our bodies, so it doesn’t consume us. We make our pain more consumable for the masses and ourselves because we are afraid of what will come out of us if we let ourselves truly go into the darkness. We think that if we let ourselves dip into that ocean of sadness we will drown in it. That we won’t come out of it. So it is understandable that so many grievers struggle with the dichotomy of their internal grief world and what is portrayed to the world. We may look "OK," or like we are "doing so well," on the outside because honestly, that is what society expects of us when inside we are struggling or crumbling. If you're seeking a soft place to land in your grief, see below for the ways to work with me. . . . 💌 DM “Retreat” for my widow’s retreat 💌 DM “Support” for 1:1 grief support 💌 DM “Carried” to preorder my 2nd book 💌 DM “Running” for my book 💌 DM “Light” for my self-guided grief course 💌 DM “Email” to join my list . . #grievingprocess #griefcoach #griefjourney #youngwidow #youngwidows #widowedandyoung #widow #widows #widowhood #widowlife #widowed #widowedmom #anaphylaxis #anaphylacticshock #anoxia #anoxicbraininjury #anoxic #death #griefandloss #deathanddying . . Grief coach for widows. Helping widows lost in grief find joy and purpose after loss.

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