IdolizedContents :
Contempt is a killer, but you are talking about the result of an action. Cause vs Effect. One good example of a "cause" would be cheating. Contempt is born from mistrust, which spawns from an action causing pain, not the other way around as you present it. Everyone knows, without trust, you have nothing, except for a life of misery. Your statements I feel is something everyone already knows. How to reconstruct what was lost, or remembering all of the reasons you fell in love with that person to begin with, is much more the challenge in the relationship. Contempt is simply a common denominator of failed relationships. That alone teaches us nothing. Relationships fall apart for many different reasons, there is no "one size fits all" solution. People typically don't change who they are at their core. Their goals, ambitions, what they want out of life will. Misalignments in any of these create rifts, a means of contempt. Young people in relationships often set themselves up for failure in the very beginning and simply outgrow the relationship. Boys go all out up front just to "win" the girl, only to create and set false expectations. Contempt is the result of disappointment. Again, not the other way around. If my wife cheated on me after all that I have done for her happiness, I'd skip Contempt and go straight to hate. Contempt may be the most common killer, not the #1. I'm sorry brother, but I disagree.
2025-10-17 04:19:08