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Don’tcallmeSteph :
My kids always needed a countdown of when we were leaving to go somewhere. Like if we’re at the mall and need to go home, I’d let them know 10 minutes before it was time and every minute let them know how much time was left.
2025-09-08 03:24:57
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Brianna Body :
maybe if you know you have to go somewhere don't let him do a favorite activity right before....or get a timer for when he can ride
2025-09-08 04:37:25
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user63112049524 :
You can try a warning or two that we’re leaving soon but if time is way too foreign of a concept give them an action you’ll leave after ie one more time to the corner and back and then we have to go. I also make faces at them when they’re not looking to make myself feel better.
2025-09-08 05:56:50
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Penny G. :
1. Do you allow for transition time? I set early transition times for “last things” (because kids have no concept of 5 more minutes but they do know they want to do something before they are finished)
2025-09-08 16:47:32
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No thanks :
This or that choices, natural consequences. For the crazy screaming the most useful phrasing that worked with my kid and the toddlers I work with now is “I want to help you, I need you to talk like me first” “we need some deep breaths before I can give you what you want” “I can’t hear you when you’re screaming, when you’re done, I’m happy to help you”. My favorite “has screaming ever gotten you what you want?” They’ve only existed for a little bit and they don’t know that they’re being annoying. I’m sure this is all repetitive to what you’re doing, and I hope that’s more encouraging that you’ve already got it than it is frustrating!!
2025-09-08 03:28:32
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Hayls :
Acknowledge, offer physical comfort (hug or stuffy), when calm enough try offering options (ie: do you want to wear your red shoes or blue crocs? or maybe picking out a snack for the car ride). This tricks them into thinking they have control. Then you praise him and tell him he can ride the bike when you get to grandma's house or not at all and he will 11/10 times choose when he gets to grandma's house.
2025-09-08 04:55:13
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WhereTheRunyonThingsAre :
I want to reasons with a video
2025-09-08 04:03:41
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MetalMomma :
ive got neurodivergent kids and stuff like this happens allot. ive used these for my kids and allot of the kids i used to nanny for and they often help. a visual timer like an egg time (think sand or water timers) and let him know u have to leave to go to (grandparents). if there is something like (bike) he wants to do and u can actually bring it then instead of no or later try starting with yes and adding but we have to leave 1st or u wont be able to. some kids just need some time and help w transitions and some get really stuck on "negative" language like no or later. kids are a trip lol. but i hope u find something that works for you momma!
2025-09-08 05:02:20
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Jayevla :
yikes. umk
2025-09-08 06:30:02
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Agnieszka :
"happiest toddler on the block" is a book that has a lot of explanations and ideas for what to do. outside of that, you can try telling him the plan at the beginning of the day and then reminding him when transitions are coming up. night before works too.
2025-09-08 04:13:31
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livohhhhh :
I’m not a parent but maybe making the drive more exciting? Put a positive connotation on it. Fall is coming up and it’s a great time to say “let’s go on a drive to see the colors of the trees” or, to see Christmas lights, to pass the farms and count the cows, literally ANYTHING. Get some ice cream and bond. Maybe later “we’re gonna go on a drive to see grandma and papa!” Is more exciting, and it’s just one more fun thing to add to the list of afternoon excitement 🤷🏻♀️call me crazy. You don’t HAVE to drive, you get to!
2025-09-08 05:45:23
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Julie Y :
You think threenager is bad?? Waiting til the f*ckin fours 🤪
2025-09-08 04:44:36
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Bsblmom22 :
Try giving choices that work in your favor. If your fine taking the bike you could say: do you want to help me put your bike in the car or do you want me to do it? I like to call it the assumed sale. Do you want to put both shoes on by yourself or mama help you with one? Timers helped us for a period. Like a wind up one. Do you want to leave in five minutes or 7 minutes, come help me set the timer. Distraction still works sometimes.
2025-09-08 05:02:48
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Bodhi 🆘 🇺🇸 :
I tell my son to get it together and walk away
2025-09-08 05:54:08
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JJ the Jeep :
I would give my son a countdown to ending an activity or to leaving for somewhere. I would say, it is 10 minutes to leaving, 7 minutes to bike riding is done. It is 5 minutes to leaving, bike riding ends in 3. he had to call back thank you 10 ( 5) so I know he heard me. yes I was a stage manager. it helped us.
2025-09-08 17:22:32
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Brittainy Hippen :
This sounds like my son. He was always better with transitions if I gave a general run through in the morning of what would happen that day and then reminders of hey it’s X amount of time until we leave or after this episode we’re going to leave or after you’re done with breakfast we’re going to leave. He needs markers of time so he knew what to expect. He is now in seventh grade, and knowing what to expect is still very important to him!
2025-09-09 00:13:09
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Cecilia :
I start crying with them or start making just really ridiculous noises. It really throws them off, kind of shocks them out of it.
2025-09-08 05:28:41
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Taylor Deem :
@ChelseaExplainsItAll
2025-09-08 11:55:45
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Random Bish Random Ish :
If there’s any chance that your child is on the spectrum, then they do not shift gears well without a lot of notice. Give notice and provide options. For this specific situation you could say we are going to grandma and grandpa‘s house tomorrow. Would you like to take your bike with you so you can ride it there or would you like to maybe take something else? Then the next day he let them know. We are leaving in one hour would you like to help me load the bike in the car or would you like me to do it? If she gets upset, try to redirect her attention. Would you like to pick a snack/toy/book to have on the drive over? I’m not sure if this will help but it does with a lot of kids.
2025-09-08 05:20:09
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Hoste :
First, around 3.5 this gets so intense and then I swear they turn 4 and it changes. It’s been like that for two kids for me and everyone I know. I think letting them have as much control over things as you can because that’s typically what the meltdowns are about. They’re at the age of wanted to have independence and control but they live in a world where we’re telling them what to do all day every day. Like honestly- could grandma and poppa come to your house that day? The kid just wants to ride his bike? If it’s possible, just let him. My kid wanted to ride their bike this evening when we’d been out and hadn’t planned that before bedtime. I said if they ate dinner real quick we could do a loop around the block, he ate so fast, it pushed bedtime 10 minutes, and we avoided a meltdown. Sounds like you’re supporting him so here for solidarity. 3 is HARD!
2025-09-08 05:48:54
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sappholesbos622 :
Hi mama. This is called transitioning. He is having a melt down for 2 reasons: 1. He is not getting a defined time to do the thing when its started. Try giving him an hour on a timer and then making him switch gears to do something else. 2. He doesnt have the coping skills to deal with his emotions when he gets upset yet. Talking through is a pretty high level he needs some more basic skills. 3. 30 minute melt downs over transitions are pretty big behavioral indication of emotional challenges that would really be good to talk to his care provider about. He might need sone behavioral therapy to manage those bog emotions.
2025-09-08 12:20:25
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