Life lessons. The real cost of staying till you hate him to finally leave is… yourself. You become collateral damage. When you stay until you hate him, it changes you. You tried to tame the monster and somewhere along the way? You became it. Or a version of him. You absorbed so much of his darkness that now, your light? It’s gone. It’s no surprise you feel so… fractured. You hurt yourself to love him. Then you hurt yourself to stay. You betrayed yourself to keep a betrayer. You lost pieces of yourself every time you swallowed the pain. The wounds inflicted on us hurt, but the wounds we inflict on ourselves? Now that has some bass to it. Because when you do finally CRAWL away, you’re left with a version of you that hates what she sees in the mirror. Why? Because you see it so clearly that it hurts: the monster created a “monster”. Now am I saying it happens to every woman this way? No. But it does to too many. Staying until you hate him is decaying. Because hate doesn’t discriminate. It’s the nature of the beast. It sees nothing outside of the body it lives in. Hate consumes the host, not the person it’s directed at. And that frequency of self-hate, shame, fear and blame? It has a smell to it. Like bin juice on a hot summers day. It’s no wonder it attracts more rats. But that’s a conversation for another day. The good news? It’s not a life sentence. You have two options. Cosplay numb and detached because the monster created a “monster”. Or you choose to center your in your breakup. You commit to reviving and respecting you inner intuition. You can choose to create closure. You can stop searching externally and look inwards for the answers. And in the future? You refuse to let pain be your only prompt. Cousin, what would your life look like if you choose yourself first, not as a reluctant reaction, but as a confident decision? Be honest. Which parts of you believes love is pain? Think about it. How much of your relationships are shaped by survival as opposed to healthy choices? 💭🫀Let’s talk about it… 💡@Your Favourite Cousin #lifelessons #lifelesson life lesson life lessons life lessons that hit hard - @confidentlyuna