@itsmarizavillarreal: ✨ As a daughter, I forgave. But as a mother, I will never understand. That sentence carries the weight of two lifetimes. When you grow up in chaos, you normalize what you should have never been asked to survive. You tell yourself, this is just life. You swallow the hunger. You silence the tears. You convince yourself that love is supposed to hurt, that survival is the same thing as safety. And for a long time, I believed that. I believed my parents did the best they could. I excused what broke me because I thought forgiveness meant pretending it didn’t leave scars. But then I became a mother. And suddenly, the little girl inside me was no longer invisible. She came rushing back every night I fed my son, every time I held him when he cried, every moment I looked into his eyes and realized I could never let him feel what I once felt. That’s when forgiveness grew complicated. Because as a daughter, I can let go. I can understand that my parents were products of their own pain, that addiction steals choices, that trauma rewrites love into something unrecognizable. I can forgive the child in them that never healed. But as a mother, I can’t understand. I can’t reconcile choosing a high over a hungry child. I can’t reconcile leaving babies crying behind closed doors. I can’t reconcile violence being louder than love. When you carry your own children, you realize what was stolen from you. And you realize that forgiveness doesn’t erase truth. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means honoring the child you once were while protecting the children you’ve brought into the world. My memoir Raised by Fire is that journey on paper. It’s the story of learning how to break generational patterns, how to see myself not just as the girl who survived, but as the mother who refuses to pass the fire down. 📖 Raised by Fire is now available for purchase on Amazon. 🕯️ To anyone who has ever wrestled with this same split you are not alone. Forgiveness and boundaries can exist in the same breath. You can grieve the parent you never had and still become the parent you always needed. #RaisedByFire #Memoir #Motherhood #HealingJourney #GenerationalTrauma

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