@mackenzieherman: Replying to @Jaruska💫 THEY RESPOND TO GRACE AND SPACE. Take it step by step, allowing them to show up when they are ready. Just like you are. It does take more time. #avoidant #avoidantex #attachmentstyle #attachmentstyles #fearfulavoidant
what's ironic is that avoidants are the ones who DO this to us anxious and calls us out ;/
2025-10-05 23:06:50
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Nastanako :
when I stopped chasing, I saw him opening, discussions became more productive, he left..
2025-10-06 08:51:53
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𝑇ala🩺🫀 :
Can I say ‘I just wanted to make sure I didn’t do anything that bothered you,’ or would that sound like an interrogation and make them pull away?
2025-10-05 23:08:14
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NOVASAURUS_ 🦖 :
I just did this yesterday. Broke no contact, and trying to explain to him what he’s done wrong and how it’s making me feel was like talking to a brick wall 😭😭😭
2025-10-06 07:29:37
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Little wolf Josey :
Or just don’t cause they won’t change
2025-10-06 04:58:46
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Shadow Believer :
would asking them if they pulled away and ghosted, is "payback" or "punishment" for something that I did (we didnt talk for 9 hrs and I re approached with my emotions) going to make them feel "attacked" or it being confrontational?
2025-10-05 23:42:36
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Mlj :
What your asking of us is to abandon what we feel to make THEM feel better
2025-10-06 04:01:26
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Avan Odysseus :
Why is always whatever they want, when they want and in the exact shape or form the imagined, anything else you do or say is going to be used against you...
2025-10-05 23:45:04
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Cathy Cool :
I tried doing the “talk to me when you’re ready” thing. He didn’t talk to me for a month. I broke up with him next time I saw him
2025-10-06 05:42:18
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Chester :
ya but they need to have empathy to even understand what your saying and that's what they lack so they keep doing it anyway then say "that's just me stop making me change" 🙄
2025-10-05 23:32:03
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huera_23 :
I'm not going to sugar coat anything we all carry trauma, she needs to get herself together just like I had to, healing is a choice take it or leave it
2025-10-06 04:33:32
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janee7517 :
well maybe today i will have a confrontation .
havent heard from her or her friend for the entire weekend . although that anxious friend was going to give me updates about the health situation of my DA.
She has a swollen leg that needs medical attention.
2025-10-06 04:00:04
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Candy Tax Bae :
Mine told me “ I know you’re going to ask why I’m avoiding you.” I asked him why and he said “ I wonder if love is real”
2025-10-06 01:58:06
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Espeonite :
I am though haha his intentions were not pure
2025-10-06 00:32:41
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shanwix75 :
I'm not sure that risking calling out the protector side is the best plan. One doesn't know why they have pulled back...it could be emotional overload.
Why not just say you miss their voice or their stories today.
2025-10-05 23:15:57
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Tyler Phillips2105 :
what if she is cheating and telling me about it? how should I have talked to her about that lol
2025-10-06 01:54:35
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Karis beth_K18 🍉🍉🇵🇸 :
yeah this doesn't work. they don't respond to anything
2025-10-06 08:52:01
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godofanarchy551 :
ya i tried that did not work. they still saw it as me attacking them.
2025-10-06 08:19:58
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ᴤᴋʏʟᴇʀ ♡🕺 :
Always with the walking on eggshells around them while they obliterate our feelings every chance they get lol
2025-10-06 07:41:19
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Valerie :
❤️❤️❤
2025-10-05 23:23:57
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Jacquelyn Rhonda :
Narcissists always play the victim, but the truth eventually shows. I was in a toxic relationship that messed with my head for years. Later, I reached out to 👉 @Alan Tech 😇 , and with his help, I found out my boyfriend had been secretly seeing someone else for months. Time and the right support really reveal who people
2025-10-06 01:31:07
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🦋✨🍒 :
Just be his ✨doormat ✨ then call it “love”
2025-10-06 09:14:16
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Siriusblack :
Call them out then leave you deserve better
2025-10-06 08:21:25
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sheikhy :
F them. We have to ignore our needs for them but they never look after us. Leave them alone. You’ll feel alone and neglected.
2025-10-06 04:48:35
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