@ambermayhutton:

Nox¿ :

well im gone now permanently, I hope he lives his life to the fullest

stervochka7.7.7 :

I see so many people keep making the same mistakes in their healing journeys. Looking for quick fixes instead of long-term growth, non-stop relapsing, trying to heal while staying in the same environment that broke them, trying to “think” their way out of pain instead of feeling it. You have to sit with your emotions, with discomfort that you are experiencing and fully process those negative thoughts, you have to go though that part, it can’t be skipped if you want to really get out of that bad place you are in. Please go and read “Healing isn’t pretty” by Mira Hartson, everything that you’re looking for is there. It's for those who want to break out of those negative thoughts that've been eating you up this whole time, finding peace within yourself.

Saaabbzzz :

I go above and beyond for people and it's rarely reciprocated... 🥲

mianadjpal :

I don’t think I’ve ever felt relief when I let go of a person.

Zach Heltzel :

Sorry, my ego is too big to let me be okay with someone being relieved by my absence. Gotta fix that.

Andrfwbs :

You need to read the banned book called Woman He Can't Unsee by Kayla Dravert even if it’s the last thing you do in life

AG :

This is something I wish more people understood rather than feeling like they’re worthless and aren’t loveable.

Hazel_in_Cymru🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 :

Wow. Not heard this perspective before, but it fits and makes sense, however heartbroken I still am.

Eric Mallory :

At least when youre with them you give them youre all. you dont realize the impact that you've left

carsarcasm :

Rare find someone on your wavelength

lily ⋆. 𐙚 ˚ :

i also require a lot of accountability and thats okay because i will always say what i did wrong and change it because i have honour and if they do not want that, it is okay 😌

dolittlo :

Nikola🌺 :

I needed that, thank you girl

Hshr.Hmza :

Rebecca / Becky :

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THOSE IN THE BACK

Sky :

You’re right, but sometimes it feels like im too much and being real doesn’t feel right anymore

Levi 🔱 :

This definitely makes sense, never thought of this this way, thank you for your perspective

Noor’s Archives :

he told me that talking about my achievements and activities at school makes him feel unaccomplished and that’s why he ghosted me. he’s the one who asked about them anyway. there’s more to me than my goals, I have hobbies that he could’ve easily redirected our conversations to if he was so insecure.

BloodMoon🫧 :

Sometimes you simply have an interest in something and get excited to talk about but they will perceived it as competition.

Dokja’s Wish 51% 49% :

He never responded to my letter and never checked on me when I disappeared. I hope he is enjoying his life without me

ирина :

psychology research shows that when the nervous system is dysregulated, your brain defaults to the trauma response. that’s why fear and avoidance take

Sevaraxon Ayibbayev :

Neuroscience teaches us that every negative emotion that comes to our brain, defaults to the trauma response. That explains why fear, pain, anxiety and avoidance takes over instead of healing. I know you think there is some magical pill, or some secret technique that's gonna fix all your problems away, but there isn’t. You are responsible for your actions and your feelings, as harsh and ruthless as it sounds, it is true. You gotta take back control of your life as soon as possible. I always recommend to people to read Healing Isn’t Pretty by Mira Hartson. This content is for cycle breakers, black sheep, and survivors who are ready to reclaim their childhood, set boundaries, and finally put down the weight they should have never carried.

lucy :

thank you so much for this. you have no idea how long I've been waiting for an answer as to why they seemed so relieved that i left, while knowing that they've caused it.

Not your mom :

All the ones that came back are proof my absence was felt- they just take along time to figure themselves out. It’s sad- the longer time goes on the more I just feel better without them.