@rantswithfant:

DAMI 🤎 :

Yes! I had to realize that a lot of my ‘resilience’ was actually avoidance

Sabrina 🇭🇹 :

I think part of it too is the misuse of the term “boundaries”

KHAE NICOLE | HighlyFavored🕊️ :

& im fine with tht

Beck :

To some degree, they overlap in certain scenarios. If you’re a people pleaser, part of healing is hardening yourself to say no more.

ISATU. :

Is this freaking play about us? 😂😂😂

courtinlaw :

Very true. I realized that I want love and I’m never going to change myself to the point that I’m bitter and hardening.

Maeva Komenan :

Now THIS is a conversation!

Jojobands :

itsssthabina :

No this is sooo true. There’s real boundaries vs having your walls up

NaijaaLuxee :

Heavy on avoidance

the.stylechemist :

This! So many people actually don’t want to do the work to have fulfilling interpersonal connections. It’s not just about the other ppl, it’s how you show up too!

Cindy Q. :

Very true, Im guilty of this myself

Rhea :

Yess I thought I was healed bc my walls were so high but not even I could get over those walls. It wasn’t until I learned to put my walls down did I actually feel healed.

Barbie de Chocolate 🍫 :

yes this isnt talked about!!!

Jay ♡ :

unfortunate truth

sarajee :

oh i am guilty

chelseawaddell2 :

Where is your hair from?😍

the formidable figure :

It’s really leaning into avoidant attachment.

Cyarely_ :

Yes 🥺had to learn this the hard way.

mariam 💟 :

yes, speak on it!

René :

Loveeeed this

Ghangrl | 📺 💫 :

I’m aware I’m doing this but idk how to stop 😭 trying to give myself compassion

kay 💛 :

i’m hardening and healing at the same damn time 😭

Tami :

Yes girl! I’m learning this rn.

Lillie 🤍 :

I am a victim of this 😂