@drbeckyatgoodinside: Does anyone else remember when watching a movie wasn't instant?! It was a whole process - planning with a friend, driving to Blockbuster, walking through aisles, hoping the movie we wanted was there. Sometimes it wasn’t. Sometimes we had to choose something else. Back then, disappointment was built into everyday life. It was frustrating, but it also prepared us for the bigger disappointments that come later - the ones that don’t resolve in a day. Our kids live in a different world. There’s barely any space between wanting and having. Between “I want to watch that” and “it’s playing right now.” That gap - the waiting, the hoping, the not getting - is almost gone. And while I love the convenience of our world (I really do), I also think about what disappears when that space disappears. Waiting taught us resilience. It taught us how to sit in discomfort, how to hope, how to cope. Maybe it’s not about going back to Blockbuster. Maybe it’s just about remembering that waiting isn’t wasted time, it’s where some of the most important growth happens. This clip is from the most recent episode of the Good Inside podcast where I break down why our kids get less practice waiting and tolerating frustration than previous generations - and how parents can intentionally build resilience in a world of convenience. Find it wherever you stream your podcasts!
Dr. Becky | Psychologist
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Wednesday 15 October 2025 15:30:15 GMT
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12160928 :
I do this with my daughter at the library! We go pick a movie to watch as a family and it’s a great experience
2025-10-15 21:20:38
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Jackie Rendon :
Completely agree! This is why I have them watch live tv…commercials lol not everything can be instant gratification
2025-10-15 15:53:11
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Zach Medlin :
You didnt even touch on AI...what the hell are we going to do 😳
2025-11-04 05:03:56
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Carly Ogden 🇨🇦 :
When it wasn't there but it was in the check in box when you asked... Pure bliss
2025-10-15 20:21:31
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Johnny Hopkins :
Nothing beat going to Blockbuster and seeing the shelf empty - but asking the clerk to check the return box and finding your movie. 🤣
2025-10-16 03:21:20
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Jess 🧡 | fangirl & corgi mom :
This is a good point
2025-10-19 06:18:42
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User :
But we adults are the one taking this all away… so we are to blame.
2025-10-18 19:37:17
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estoll00 :
We learned delayed gratification which is such a struggle to teach our kids now!
2025-10-16 02:53:08
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livhaskins :
I know this is so strange but I miss the smell of blockbuster
2025-10-16 01:28:49
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Alyson123 :
But also having to brainstorm together to pick another movie was part of the fun!
2025-10-20 16:37:49
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Lady of Autumn Lake :
This is one of the reasons we go to the movies. Go see the Minecraft movie, we go home, he wants to watch it at home, “sorry kid it’s not out to stream for a few months.”
2025-10-16 06:08:45
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simza65 :
This is exactly why I’ve decided no more movies. Needs to be a special thing to watch a movie. Now with streaming services it’s always there
2025-10-16 03:17:09
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mccolin_ :
This.
2025-10-18 23:04:09
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anniemyee :
So true!
2025-10-23 17:32:23
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Stephanie Starr :
Oh I let my daughter be dissapointed all the time! Lol. I refuse to raise an entitled brat.
2025-10-16 03:08:06
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Nicole | Oops I Bought It 💳✨ :
Oh do I remember that feeling! This is so true! That and boredom are obstacles I face
2025-10-16 12:48:28
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Shelly79 :
I would still go to blockbuster. I loved walking trying to decide what i wanted or waiting for people to return in hopes they returned the one you wanted
2025-10-16 12:10:46
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Lauren0087 :
Having these experiences as a kid but now, living in a space with so much instant gratification at my fingertips, it’s so easy to forget what waiting was like. Thankful to grow up when I did but also having to remind myself that waiting is okay.
2025-10-16 02:51:38
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A_klimczak :
I can remember on weekends I visited my dad - we would rent a VCR and then pick two VHS tapes. And we loved it. Felt like royalty!!!! Ahhhhh the 80s.
2025-10-16 10:00:37
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. :
my daughter was so confused with commercials and the ability to not find something you wanted to watch when she went over to Grandma's house or a friend's house.
2025-10-15 20:09:09
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Screentimerspod :
Trying to explain to our kids how hard it used to be to watch stuff is the new “I had to walk to school 10 miles up hill both ways in the snow.” We would love to have you on our podcast to talk about screen time in a fun, honest, non judgemental, pro screen time environment.
2025-10-18 21:28:05
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Hope in Healing Therapy :
Instant gratification is a challenge for adults too lol. In a world of streaming services, food delivery, and online services it’s a tough ask to try to train our kids to have patience when we, as adults, are struggling with the concept ourselves.
2025-10-16 03:38:54
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damselndistress🇨🇦 :
its the same with toys. you used to have to wait until Xmas or your bday.
2025-10-16 14:30:17
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FullSPEDAhead :
You can build in anticipation and disappointment in other aspects- parents just have to be ok with their kids disappointment.
2025-10-15 22:07:44
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misskellyjelly :
I had a student share the agony of no phone at the neuropsych eval appointment. Breaks between tests were limited to waiting room movies and magazines. To this generation it feels like torture.
2025-10-16 02:59:59
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