Sarah, LCSW, FDN-P
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babystinkbreath :
Yep, time outs are not considered appropriate practice in daycare/preschool anymore! It's not advisable to make a child isolate in response to big emotions.
2025-10-23 01:53:27
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Raine Wyrm :
My parents called me melodramatic when I would get upset, and then when I started masking my emotions they called me heartless and cold. I could never get it right
2025-10-23 03:42:11
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kittcattery :
on another note, as one of the kids whose parents said "you probably just need to eat something" or "do us all a favor and get something to eat" so I ate every time I had bad feelings and now I have an eating disorder at 24 and the only thing that helps my bad moods is food 👍
2025-10-25 17:14:43
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ArtsyAstronaut :
"Now go stand in the corner and think about what you did" turned me into a chronic overthinker 💀
2025-10-23 17:46:51
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phoenix_in_progress :
Just had this realization this week. I am now an extreme intellectualizer and really struggle with processing emotions nowadays.
2025-10-23 06:43:10
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OCaptainMyCaptain :
I think it depends on how you do it. I tell mine when he gets meeeean and saying unkind things that he needs to go take some space, take some deep breaths etc and then to come back to me when he's ready to talk about his feelings in a kind way. I'm always available for a hug when his feelings are big, I'm not available to be called names or to be hit. We can hold space for feelings without being unkind - he knows he's capable of being both angry and respectful at the same time. timeout with no repair and without talking about it after is probably what did us millennials in. Age and length of the time out is also an important factor
2025-10-23 12:57:13
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ricetracy28 :
I get what you’re saying, and, in theory, when do kids learn the empathetic responsibility not to upset, disrupt, distract, derail others? I agree that big emotions should be shared and responded to, but by whom, where, and when?
2025-10-23 20:43:30
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Kel Wynn :
You learned how to regulate your emotions?
2025-10-24 15:17:41
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WuzUpFrenz :
If this goes for women, it goes doubly for men like myself. Women were allowed to be sad and have the entire range of emotions as children. Parents trained boys to either be happy, or turn whatever you're feeling into anger.
2025-10-23 03:43:38
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Bored and Looking for a break :
Oh this called me out 💀💀💀
2025-10-22 21:38:25
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Nora :
I was always put on my knees, had to have my hands on the wall (there were literal spots where our hands made an imprint on the wall) and “think about what we’d done.” I’d just think about how much my knees hurt and why I had to endure that.
2025-10-23 04:12:15
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FiggyTater :
Totally agree! And as a kid I often didn’t understand or disagreed with the reasons for my punishment, so I became a chronic ruminator who just replays the scenario over and over and picks apart everything I said/did or things I should have said/done 🙃🙃🙃
2025-10-23 19:37:07
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sarah swanson :
I have 3 kids. I've only put them in a "timeout" if they were upset and saying things that are hurtful or mean while upset. I've taught them that they can go to their safe space in their room to cry, scream or whatever it is they need to do. Talking about things and working through them is a valuable gift to have in life but we can't take back words we have said out of anger or fear. Most times we say things we don't mean in a situation like that and it's important to learn it's ok to walk away and regroup. Solve problems or at least try to work through them once you have calmed down.
2025-10-23 07:10:18
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MrGrundle :
Interesting. Curios on the difference between the time out as punishment for big emotions vs the physical punishments commonly used be the generations prior. Gen-X and prior it was often physical. Millennials were the 1st on the time out and many older gen thought it was spoiling.
2025-10-23 10:55:50
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Jennifer Leita Hoyt :
that and / or "I'll give you something to cry about "
2025-10-23 09:59:45
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None-ya :
Idk.My time outs were stated “until you don’t act that way”. How you feel is fine but how you act on it and treat others based on it can be a problem.
2025-10-23 10:47:39
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Elyssa :
My entire life I was told not to sweat the small stuff. Imagine hearing that as a child who feels such big emotions. I’ve done so much work to realize that it’s okay to have feelings about stuff in the moment, the reaction is what’s important.
2025-10-23 07:18:42
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Elsie :
And this is why I sobbed in the theater watching Frozen as a grown adult
2025-10-23 11:16:34
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redd :
💡 i think u may be on to something.
2025-10-23 17:29:12
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Rigatoni :
I’m staying with my parents at 26 bc my apartment has mold and got me veryyy sick. I just moved into it. I’ve been angry. Every time I voice my anger just to get it out so I can focus on what’s next, my parents lose their minds at me. I’m supposed to be grateful, I’m not allowed to show my anger, what’s that gonna help?, I have to find solutions, focus on problem-solving. Like yeah I know I have to fix the problem. But I’m allowed to be angry and let that emotion out so I can better focus on solving my problem. Because keeping it all contained does. not. help. The best part is I model it after THEM. But when they’re angry? If I give them their own treatment, they literally almost disown me from how much angrier it makes them. It’s funny how that works.
2025-10-23 09:59:04
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Goddezi :
I routinely got snapped at for laughing out loud at videos I was watching cause it was "disruptive" so I trained myself not to laugh out loud. I'm very good at try not to laugh challenges now
2025-10-23 17:16:44
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Jess 🧡 | fangirl & corgi mom :
This makes so much sense.
2025-10-23 18:25:09
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selenaa99 :
Yes. It just showed me my emotions were not acceptable
2025-10-25 15:32:33
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Sean :
why i do a "go in your room and calm down and i'll come up so we can talk" and half the time i need to calm down as well
2025-10-23 12:13:51
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Jennifer :
whenever I got big emotions I was sent to my room until I could "calm down"
2025-10-23 09:48:22
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