@girlthepoet: #creatorsearchinsights Plus-size dating teaches you to rehearse rejection before anything even happens. You walk in already bracing for impact. Will I fit. Will I be judged. Will they see me or only the body. We call it insecurity but it is actually survival in a world that taught us to apologize for existing. If you relate you are not broken …you were conditioned. Unlearning it is the work of returning home to yourself. #plussize #plussizedating #plussizewomen #foryoupage❤️❤️

user9945669242049 :

As a heterosexual man that prefers plus size women what are some things I can do early in the relationship to create a safe space?

marybratz3 :

I’m losing weight, but they still won’t like me because of the loose skin.

sharonlw_78 :

💯 All the fears said out loud…feel this all the time

Ruuchan :

I relate to this so much

Coriannder :

I could not have said it better 😔 I always feel like a placeholder for until they find someone prettier, thin, and just better. I don’t think I’ve ever dated someone who was proud to have me on their arm.

jamesdominick67 :

You look fine too me

the good girl 🌹 :

the story of my life

It’sMeFiona📚🍒 :

A big fear of mine is being someone’s “hear me out”

Jen :

you have said all my fears out loud. im so glad im not the only one who feels like this.

alexabarre :

Thank you for sharing this. I feel all these things. The mental gymnastics we go through just to meet someone, or leave the house is insane. Stuck between wanting to be seen and wanting to be invisible. 😔

Steven Pither :

I know your grief that’s my normal too x

Alexis :

it's not just you. I'm 33, always fat, never been in a relationship. it's either guys who don't like your weight, fetishists or guys who'd be too

Kelsey Lynne :

I’ve never seen a video I relate to more..

🌟Jennifer Lynn🌟 :

Having to re-enter the dating arena.....I get this!! Its terrifying

Gina :

It’s the “even if I do lose the weight, I’ll have loose skin. And you’ll still find me unattractive” narrative that haunts me. It is such a strange place to be comfortable in my skin but still feel self conscious of how my potential partner feels about how others judge my body.

Kelli :

damn...

Grizzly :

Man, this one hit close to home. 😬

Khrystal :

This actually made me cry bc I couldn’t have said it better. I’ve had ex’s tell me I have a pretty face but they’re not attracted to me bc of my weight. It’s a constant reminder that how I feel was validated by people I loved.

chianigilbert7 :

Dear God I hate it here. 😭😭😭 It’s so true I have not been able to put into words how I feel about this. Thank you for saying this. ❤

NikkiB_2.0 :

every thing I can relate too it is facts what goes through our heads 😌😌😌

🌹🦋Mama Mayes🦋🌹 :

I so relate to this... but then I also know I'm fine af. I am old enough I'm starting to not gaf what anybody thinks. I'm trying to anyway.

Wendie :

I so relate to this. 😢

nicole :

he ended it by saying he just didnt want to be with a big girl anymore after a whole year together. i’ll always worry my insecurities caused it :/ sadly i met one that proved this thinking (for myself) correct

maytrixx1975 :

this is the reason we don't think!

Klem🍋 :