@perrysisteranna: I’ve been reading Positive Discipline and the part on long-term effects really stopped me. It breaks down the three parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, and the middle ground of being both kind AND firm…and how each one shapes kids over time. This part stayed with me: Kindness without boundaries creates insecurity… and boundaries without kindness create fear. Our kids need both to feel safe and capable long-term. Source: Positive Discipline Chapter: 1 #parenting #gentleparenting #toddlermom #MomsofTikTok #parentingtips
As a single mother I take pride in being an authoritative parent 🥰 it ain’t easy but it’s vital to parent this way
2025-11-18 20:26:09
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Emarie :
I show kindness and firmness, but yesterday I was so worried I was being too firm and this was confirmation I needed!
2025-11-17 16:51:52
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The Tee’s :
Thank u for sharing this
2025-11-19 16:16:33
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itsalaifestyle :
How early do we start with this? My son is 8 months. I think I’m form and kind now. 😭
2025-11-20 13:13:07
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Saint_BRZY :
We use to have family meetings to discuss things we didn't agree on with our parents .. growing up it seemed excessive but my mom allowed us to disagree & discuss our feelings. But we were disciplined
2025-11-17 19:15:14
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SUNrise :
Which book is it
2025-11-19 06:27:31
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Nicaryah Shirese :
both would cause the same amount of damage but in different ways
2025-11-19 06:31:20
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Olivia Carter :
Yes that’s basically gentle parenting and I wish more people would learn about it instead of assuming it’s letting your kids do whatever they want!
2025-11-17 17:17:45
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Autumn__b0tt0m :
What book is it?
2025-11-18 19:31:11
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Sheled_ :
Who’s the author?
2025-11-18 00:13:10
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Shanice 🥰 :
What the book called?
2025-11-19 05:27:49
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azabuwisteria :
My husband’s parents were no warmth, all boundaries and yikes it’s been horrible to watch the aftermath of their parenting style.
2025-11-17 18:40:13
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RockoSocko2020 :
Authoritative is the research proven best parenting style. Not authoritarian, authoritative.
2025-11-17 17:49:39
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ctrlaltbey :
PSA for the people who swear gentle parenting doesn’t work: kind and firm is literally just another name for gentle parenting which is literally just another name for authoritative parenting (which is very different from authoritarian parenting)
2025-11-17 18:00:47
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Aisha Milburn :
Kind and firm here 👋🏾. I don't call myself a gentle parent, though. I was brought up with authoritarian parents, so I'm doing my best to be the parent I needed back then.
2025-11-17 19:35:25
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Steph C. :
What’s the book called love?
2025-11-19 05:52:59
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Alicia :
Which book is this?
2025-11-19 04:06:54
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takarralatimer :
Can you share the book info
2025-11-17 20:34:47
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TBTSSS_ :
Yes we learn this in psychology
2025-11-18 04:13:58
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ashley :
It’s no win win .. it’s like I have to be a military sergeant with my boys cause if I show them any kind of kindness & warmth they think it go time .
2025-11-18 08:26:12
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eboneyhenry :
I’d say no warmth we use a talking stick in my house that to prevent me from over talking and lecturing everyone and give them a chance to speak then I can respond
2025-11-18 02:45:05
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itsme_kay3705 :
Equally both of they are never taught healthy boundaries they grow up either making bad decisions or afraid of making bad decisions. If they're shown no warmth they become cold hearted, lacking understanding, and having a lack of love
2025-11-17 17:50:14
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BiggerSelfLove :
Girl I wish there was a dashboard with a parenting grade cause I’m just trying my best at this point. I’m setting boundaries, asking nicely, giving warnings 🤣 she seem to be doing okay but I hear you don’t get your “parenting report card” and really see how you did raising them until they hit early 20s
2025-11-17 19:32:38
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Amanda Germain :
Patting myself on the back bc I’m last one 🥰
2025-11-17 17:26:17
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lala💎 | wife + sahm 🌸🩰 :
Couldn’t agree with this more! Gentle parenting for a lot of people looks like no boundaries…
2025-11-18 00:35:47
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